What to Cook Wensday! ( Easy Food Prep Edition)

 

3 way Spiced Pork

 

What you will need:

2 Pounds of Sliced Pork Shoulders (Optional)

2 Large Onions

Curry Powder or Paste

Chili or Cayenne Pepper

Seasoning Salt or Regular Salt

Black Pepper

Herbs of your choice

Vinegar

Cutting Utensils

Basic Cooking Utensils  

 

Directions

 

Trim the fat off of your pork then wash your meat with water and vinegar. (This does not have to be made with pork (beef, lamb, deer or goat  it all about what you like) would do as well. Chicken would also do but you have to keep in mind that pressure cooked chick tends to shred if you like your chicken that way by all means do you) Lightly season your meat with salt and pepper (Do not forget to massage your seasoning in your meat trust me it does make a difference) Let your meat sit for about 30 minutes then finish seasoning it with chili, curry powder, herbs of your choice (I use a melody of rosemary, thyme , basil, parsley and oregano) Massage your meat again and let it rest for about a hour. Slice up two large onions place half at the bottom of your pressure cooker add your meat and place the other half on top. Set it for 45 Minutes and start it.  If you decide to use a oven and roast your meat. Preheat your oven to 350 degrees, Line the bottom of your baking dish with your onions and put your meat on top cover with aluminum foil. Want something that doesn’t require a lot of energy consumption you can simply saute your onions with a touch of oil in a frying pan, place you meat on top and pan fry your pork. If your using the pressure cooker when the timer goes off on the timer check your meat it should be tender then your done. If your roasting rotate our pork ever 10 minutes after about 20 minutes and the meat is golden brown move your onion from under the meat to caramelize on top give this 10 more minutes then your done. Pan frying is excellent because you can do one at a time and store the rest for later on. When pan frying you might have to babysit because its fairly quick to cook this way depending on the amount your cooking it is finished when it’s golden brown and tender.

 

This is prefect for meal prep because you can make a lot at once and place in your weekly containers. (if your decide to cook goat, deer,or lamb with this recipe I suggest you pressure cook it or roast it) Beef Steak or Lamb Steak can be pan fried. If you want a sauce you can simple dilute curry paste and on the stove with water, coconut milk or broth but remember   to reduce the amount of curry and if you use broth the amount of salt in your seasoning process.

What do you consider success?

Many people confuse success with having a lot of money and flashy material things. Is this truly success? Being able to live good yet be empty on the inside? Are we really admiring the right people?
These are the questions one should asks oneself.

In my opinion success is to live comfortable life where you have all of your needs and never losing sight of what really matters in this world. How many of the people you inspire to be like have reached out to those struggling? I'm not one to talk about conspiracy theories,  truth be told we don't actually know if there's truth behind the claims but I have witness the change in people once they become rich. They seem to gain everything that money can buy but they also seem to become more cold hearted and less grateful for the blessing that comes from God.

Many actually tend to forget that there is a God. They become so wrapped up in self worship. Is this true success? Are material things worth losing your soul? People have failed to realize that when this life is over you can't take your worldly earnings along with you. The amounts of things you acquired during the duration of your life would not buy you a place in heaven.

True success to me is going through hardship and trails in life. Yet, being able to remain humble, loving, and grateful for all of your blessings. Getting to a place within your life were you are happy with who you are and what you have. Being okay with not having the best car, clothes, electronics or whatever.

Don't let money become your God, Don't let material items become your God.  Remind Grateful rather you have a little  or a lot


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Petals Falling Until Next Time!

Dating Maddness and Man Drama (Personal Story Time)

 I’m writing this because it’s been awhile since I spoke to ya’ll from a home girl point. This is about me and my man drama. This is going to be a long, funny, and crazy one. (Stay Tuned)

 

So recently I have become a little iffy about dating. Reasons why is because most guys don’t seem to be aiming for long term relationships. I use to say that “It’s understandable we’re young no one is actually looking to settle down”but now it just seem like I’m making up excuses for these guys. Anyone who knows me knows I tend to bond with guys a little bit better then females. Now I’m not saying that I gravitate around them because of that I have tons of female friends but most of us aren’t girly or prissy you know things people expect girls or women to be. We are what I like to call it “Girly Tom Boys” but I associate with a lot of guys. So when it comes to dating I tend to pick up on their little games a lot quicker then the average woman. So I’m always stuck with wondering do I come off to strong or do I basically have a no bull shit meter on my forehead that make them feel uncomfortable.

So I only felt like it was only right since I give relationship advice to put myself in a hot seat a tell ya’ll a little bit of my beez wax. I’m writing about 3 scenarios each one have a nick name that matches their personally.

Norman Bates

 

Ladies we have all had that Norman Bates. You know that guy that is crazy about you and when I say crazy I mean the actually psycho crazy. So being that I’m in a area where there isn’t many places to go and mingle. I turn to the web I never met anyone off the web “I’m going to clear that up now” but this is simply my way of mingling with the opposite sex. I’m young and attractive so of course falling in love, a long relationship, and marriage is never to far from my mind. My friends have been talking about this site called Tagged. So I go through the basic post my pictures write a couple of statuses and waited. In a matter of a few minutes I have 10 plus message and friend request so I’m like “Yassss” so there a guy who contacts me with I nice little poem. I was so impressed by the fact that he pay attention to the fact that I’m a poet and didn’t contact me based off of my profile picture. So I replied back which is something I barely do.Fast Forward two days later I see a message like “I Love You”. I was like stop, pause, rewind, and press play. “WHAT” so I kindly tell him it’s to soon for all of that I don’t know you and vice versa. He flipping like “I need you” and etc. So I stop replying I got really uncomfortable. So I’m going about my business one day and he message me like “I’m sorry I came off to strong, I’m not a creep or anything Idk what got in to me” because I’m a strong believer in everyone deserving a second chance. I replied back so this fool flips the script like “I don’t want to ever get married or have children because I don’t want to owe spend my hard earn money on alimony or child support if a relationship don’t work out” Ya’ll he lost me there. What’s the whole point of a relationship if the ultimate goal isn’t marriage. Yes a lot of times it never gets close to that but who in there right mind enter into a relationship like we can hold hands and smash until we die?

 

Stevie J

 

The guy with the baby momma he can’t seem to part ways with. So this was when I went to Edison Job Corps Academy. My bestfriend Toni introduced me to one of her male friends (I’m not giving to much info because a lot of people know him but very few knew about us) So everything cool. I’m taking a liking to him. He was sweet, funny, playful and very handsome (In my opinon). I was going through a lot of emoitions in general at this particular time in my life and he seemed to have came at the right time. I started noticing that a lot of times within our conversation I would give him advice and he would be like my “Baby Momma tells me the same thing” as conversation prolonged his baby momma kept popping up which was a extreme red flag. One thing I have learned from my brother figures is that a baby momma depending on ya’ll relationship is familiar #$%&* that for the most part is going to always be there. One day he hit me up when during lunch like met me out back so we can spend the rest of our lunch time together. So being that we have made it clear we were fond of one another I didn’t hesitate. So we walk around the campus talking and flirting. So I mention something about how college would benefit his future and etc. He replys “my baby momma told me that this weekend when I was spending time with her and my kids” That’s when I became very clear that I was a campus fling that he was pursuing with the hope of sticking his hand in my cookie jar and Baby Momma was Wifey. I never contacted him after that. Then he got kicked out of EJCA all together.

 

The case of the Joc

This is the man who’s a full blown hoe. He has tons of baby mommas, a main, and a hand full of sides.  The problem with this fool is he can play well. Have no signs that he’s involved with other women until it’s to late and you have developed feelings. So I met mine when I was a teenager and of course (I’m skimming on the details ya’ll don’t need to know everything) it was long before my little hormones went to racing. (My best friend Toni knows who I’m talking about) So I thought I was the luckiest girl in the world. He was sweet, kind, and he was fine! We talked for a little while and when my best friend and I became friends (The beginning of Tat and Toni) finds out this dude was macking to both of us. Later on we realize that he had a main chick, sidelines, and was swing that @#$% everywhere. We later became close friends and that’s about it. Don’t ever get serious with a hoe.

 

I know this is long but this is just some of my crazy man drama. For some reason I get the crazies.

 

If you like my ratchet love stories let me know I would do much more!

dablaqroses@gmail.com

What to Cook Wednsday (Sugar Detox Edition)

Standard Sugar Free Salad Dressing

Ingredients(

Vinegar (White or Apple Cider)
Olive Oil (Vegetable Oil and Canola Oil will do as well)
Black Pepper
Garlic Salt
Parsley
Oregano
and
Basil

Directions

In a large bowl combine one cup of oil and two cups of vinegar (If your choosing to use apple cider vinegar remember that it tends to be a bit denser then white vinegar) Slightly whisk the two until it almost form a translucent white color.  Now add in your black pepper, parsley, oregano, and basil (Add as much as you desire) Now salt your dressing (You don't have to use garlic salt it can be regular salt or sea salt just remember salt is salt so use it in moderation) Whisk your dressing and taste it on a leaf of lettuce or what ever greens your using in your salad (This is the most important step the dressing isn't going to taste like much on it's own and can easily be over salted so grab a leaf out your salad bowl or plate pour a teaspoon over it and taste it) When your happy with it then it done for a better taste let it sit in the fridge a little before using it. Let the flavors marry each other. It's something that kind of have to grow on your if your infatuated with ranch dressing. Just think of it as an Hoagie without the bread. Pair this with some lean meat, Tomatoes, Cucumbers, Bell Peppers, Lettuce, Spinach and any other veggies have fun with your salad.

Words from me:

One of the hardest things to find when your trying to limit your sugar intake is salad dressing. We all know that eating healthy could be a bit difficult. When thinking about sugar we tend to just limit our intakes of candies, pastries, sugary drinks and etc. Many don't realize that carbohydrates such as bread, rice, and pasta all converts to sugar. Just think about it if your similar to me its almost normal to eat cereal for breakfast, have a sandwich for lunch, and a pasta or rice dish for dinner. Not talking about our love for Juice and Soda. That's just a ton of sugar daily personally I made it a goal to stray away from sugar for at least one month in a year with the long term goal of reducing the amount a sugar in my diet throughout the remaining of the year. Trying to get over the Holiday Fog of cakes and cookies for Christmas, chocolate for Valentines, and Pies for Easter the spring and summer months are the best time to get straight before the binge candy eating during Halloween but anyways before I babble to much. If you guys want another Sugar Free Dressing Recipe or If you just want to see more healthy recipes.

Email me at: dablaqroses@gmail.com


Petal Falling until Next Time!

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Don't Let Them Define You!

Don’t ever let someone define the person that you are! It’s true people are going to classify you in their own category but don’t let their classification change who you are as a person.

People are going to talk rather you’re doing good or bad so let those trolls talk. Just because you’re different you many seem to be that main target for their nasty comments but you have to understand that people tend to false label things they don’t know. So stop trying to fit in with people that aren’t brave enough to explore something different. Just because you don’t talk much doesn’t mean you anti-social, Just because you like to watch anime at 25 doesn’t mean you have the mindset of a child, and just because you dress however you feel doesn’t mean you’re out of style.

This life was given to you and no one would answer for your life except for you . So don’t mold into our people expectations just to please them. You are unique. So love yourself for being unique. Sometimes you may not understand your own ways and it may seem like something is wrong with you. That’s a part of living and  learning. Throughout our lives we would change until we have finally become who we truly are, but only change for yourself not because some said you should be like this and you should act like that.

People that focus their attention on trying to make your life miserable are miserable themselves. Most of them are trap in trying to please someone else and they might envy you for being able to express yourself. So do to you what have been done to them. Never lose sight of who you are. You were made prefect.

 

Love You Guys!

Petals Falling Until Next Time!

Purple Canopy (Short Story) Chapter One

Chapter One

 

I

t was an awkwardly cold summer day in the inner city of New Jersey. For some reason it just     with her present mood. Jason started to act different every since he left for college on a football scholarship. She just felt like her budding high school relationship with so much potential was slowly come to an end. Unlike him she wasn’t popular or from a well to do family they were what many called opposites that attracted.

“Still thinking about that nigga huh?”  Diana said peeking her head through the silky lace drapes at Shana who laid on her stomach writing in her diary. Diana shook her head as she slide in the bed next to her sister.

“Shany you’re 19 going on 20 you have to understand that somethings change when we grow up, Jay been at Howard for 2 whole years going on 3 If it isn’t getting better….” Diana started to caress Ashana’s her although they were 2 years apart. Ashana was like her daughter. It’s not that their mother was a dead beat but between 3 jobs and her fiancé you could basically say that the girl’s had everything they wanted material wise but they would’ve traded it all in just to have a week of motherly love.

“I know Dia, Jason isn’t like that I’m sure his ass is just busy that’s all” Ashana said in a whisper even though she herself started to no longer believe the excuses she was making up for him. No one was that busy that they couldn’t even pick up the phone for the girl they claimed to have been in love with since they were 14,and those “I’m working hard so we could have a better life” speeches he feed her when he does contact her started to taste more and more like bullshit on her taste buds.

“I know Shany, but just because he isn’t here doesn’t mean you shouldn’t live. You have to go out there and make him sweat a little. Ju Ju is having a cookout this weekend and your ass is going.” Diana slipped out of bed before Ashana could reject the invite.

“ Damn that bitch can move fast when she wants to” Ashana thought as she rolled over and started twisting her fingers in the violet lace that hung over her bed. She remembered the time when her mother didn’t have to work so much. Seemed like the day their father got life for first degree murder they lost both parents at one time. No one ever let them forget that street royalty ran through their veins many seemed disappointed that neither sister decided to follow daddy’s foot steps.

 

 

“Child one day your going to met a man that’s going the change everything you have ever thought about your life” Ashana jumped out of her sleep it has been awhile since she dreamt about her Grandma Daisy . Many people don’t believe in foreteller’s but anyone who has ever heard the stories from older people in the deep rooted south quickly changed their minds. Grandma Daisy was one of those Louisianan bayou women who knew more about the supernatural then anyone. Some people called her a witch rumor had it that she came from a long line of priestess but sweet old Daisy was just a woman who knew what she was talking about. When say said something it happened and it baffled Ashana. Why was she dreaming about this now so many years later.

“Shany”! Ju Ju yelled outside her door before busting in and pulling the cover off of her.

“Damn, I forgot your ass slept naked, get up and get dressed we going shopping for tonight” Jucinta was one of those best friend’s. You know the type that would drag you outside on your worst days just because she isn’t going to let you died in your own feelings.

The mall was packed from corner to corner with people you could tell only came for the free air conditioning. Ju Ju pulled Ashana’s hand as she busted through groups of people.

“OUCH!” Ashana yelled as she clenched over holding her stomach. Her toasted caramel complexion started turning a bright apple red as she started breathing rapidly. Causing more attention then she wanted to bring to herself. Jucinta stopped and looked at her best friend with a blank expression.

“It’s been awhile since that happened, what’s bring it on now” Jucinta knew what was happening. It was the same thing that happened before her brother got killed and the same thing that happened when she met the father of her two children.

“I don’t know first I have a dream about Daisy and now this” Ashana gasps for air as she tried to composed herself.

“You dreamt about Daisy what has it been like three years since that happened“ Jucinta said  pushing through more crowds to the food court.

Grabbing a couple of drinks the two young women sat down where no one could hear them.

“What did you see” Ju Ju said pulling out her flask pouring some vodka into both of their orange juice.

“I didn’t see anything that’s the weird part” Ashana said taking a long sip out of her straw.

 

 

Finally getting to Ju Ju’s town house, Ashana took a deep breath believing that what she felt had something to do with the amount of people around her. She took a quick shower as Ju Ju got the children ready to go away for the weekend. Everything was still very strange to her she was told that she had a gift as a child but tried to shake it because it went against everything she believed in. As she became older is seemed harder to ignore then one day it just stopped. For it to come back all of a sudden sent chills up her spine.

“Girl I need my bathroom the cookout starts and two hours” Ju Ju broke her deep thinking.

Ashana  slipped on a pair of basic black leggings with faux leather on both side over her thick thighs and a blinged out crop t-shirt over her busty figure she was the definition of thick and she loved all of her curves. Her curly black hair with golden tips rested at her mid-back. She lined her slanted brown eyes that seemed to be a mixture of gold and mahogany before painting her lips with a sheer gloss.

“It starting now” Ju Ju yelled at the door before spraying her signature perfume all over her body.

 

 

Rico stood at the grill with a can a beer in one hand. Staring at Jucinta as she walked out the house with Ashana by her said.

“Don’t make another baby tonight” Shana joked as she hugged Rico causing him to giggle and blush.

“Shany met my homies, Homies this the best friend Ju can’t stop blabbing about” Rico said to the group of guys that seemed take up all the space behind him.

Ashana went down the line shaking hands with the fellas when it happened she shook a hand that sent electricity up her arm. She shook it off trying not to be weird but his eyes gazed at hers as if he felt it too. They both became frozen and tongue tied….

 

To Be Continued…

 

 

5 Shocking things about stress you probably don't know

You probably think stress isn’t a big deal. I thought so to until I had to study the effects of stress. Stress can cause mental disorders such as depression, infertility in women, abdominal fat, loss of memory and heart disease. Thats just to name a few. On the bright side you can relieve stress (we all know we can’t completely stop it from happening)

They’re many way to relieve stress you can organize your life by scheduling you daily task. Exercise can reduce stress as well. You can even pick up soothing hobbies such as painting, writing, drawing, dancing, and etc.

Even changing the way you approach your stressors (Those crazy things that cause stress) could reduce your amounts of stress dramatically. For example: Instead of anxiously approaching a event where you have to speak in front of a large crowd because somewhere in your mind you feel like your going to fail and you haven’t even started yet, You approach that event with the mindset that the crowd is going to love you can reduce the stress that comes with worrying.

I haven’t disclosed all the detail about stress because I don’t want you to simply take my word for it. You should do your own research on the topic.

The video titled “Stress : The portrait of a killer” is a good place to start. This video can be found on youtube.

 

Love You Guys!

Petals Falling Until Next Time! Xoxo!

Is it hard for you to forgive? Maybe this would help.

 

A lot of times when someone has hurt us. We tend to carry that hurt around as unwanted baggage. We become bitter to the thought of letting that person back into our lives and in many case wish misfortunate upon that person because we are so angry. Sitting around thinking of a way to get that person back for what they have done to you or praising because karma has worked her magic.

Bring back memories huh? What if I told you that forgiveness is not for them but for you? Truth be told a lot of times we are hurt and angry about something that happened in the past and that person probably don’t even have a clue that your holding a grudge against them. They’re living their lives happy and your stuck because you have simply allowed them to steal your happiness.

When a person can control how you feel causing you not enjoy the days you have on this earth. They have control over you without even knowing. No one should have the power to make you avoid anything, and when we carry baggage we tend to avoid situations where we would run into that person. We would ask questions like “Is he/she going to be there? If so I don’t want to be caught in the same location with that person”. That’s not how you should live your life. Believe it our not the best thing you can do for your self is to forgive.

Forgiveness is the best revenge. Being kind to a person who have harmed you. Rather it was verbally, mentally, physically, or emotionally would baffle them more then being bitter towards them. You have to realize that everyone has hurt someone in the past including you. Sometimes people feel bad for the hurt they have caused. So forgive them and let it go after all you want those you have harmed to forgive you.

Purple Canopy (Short Story Sunday) Prologue

Prologue

 

Life has it’s ups and it’s downs but sometimes what we think are ups are really down. Things aren’t always what they seem some of those bad things are actually good and some of those good things are actually bad. Problem is it so easy to read people and situations wrong. It’s so easy to trust a kind predator when you’re a loving prey.

-Ashana

 

Ashana sat on her canopy bed as the rain drop tapped against her window. She stared at her beige wall covered in cute little decals. That’s when it happened, that one thing that happens to everyone but no one openly admits it. She tried to block it out but lately the brain chatter seemed to be her only companion and her worst enemy. Standing up she stretched her short thick arms towards the ceiling before walkng to her Victorian style vanity table. Gazing over her makeup collection and checking her frame in the mirror. She froze in place before cracking a sinister smile.

“Everyone thinks your sooo lucky Shana” She thought to herself as she slowly start to buff concealer on the blue and purple marks that tattooed her shoulders. Making herself up from head to toe. The tapping of the rain became more rapid. As she slipped into her silk robe. Moving from room to room she was a woman on a mission as she cleaned out all of the valuables. Storing them in a place that only she knew about.

“Shana”!!!!! Diana yelled out for her before letting out a piercing scream and running to look for her.

“What the fuck did you do”! Diana continued to yell has she grabbed her sister by that arm. Shana burst into tears as if she hadn’t cried enough.

The sirens sung as their lights painted the streets.

“my car is parked down the street, in it is a code where all of my things are” She said pushing her older sister into a secret passage way that lead outside.

The cops commanded her to come out as she made her way down the stairs. She slowly walked admiring the marble stairs with glass railing and the many paintings that caress the walls of her mini mansion.

“You are so lucky shana” Her thoughts mimicked those of the people who wish to had been in her shoes. She stepped over Fuji’s body as his blood started to stain the cashmere white carpet.

“Mrs. Anderson you are…” Jason started to proceed with her arrest.

“Let’s stop the small talk, cuff me up and let’s go” Shana morbidly said to her ex-boyfriend as she turn around facing her back towards him. Jason grabbed her stepping towards then pushing her into the police car. She never lost sight of the house she had beautiful and horrible memories in.

 

 

“Mrs. Anderson” A tall model built woman walked towards her cell.

Ashana stood up off of her bunk looking at the woman as if she stole something from her.

“My name is Mina Johnson and I’m your attorney, I refuse to think you killed your husband without a reason” The woman pulled out a newspaper with the words

“ Business Tycoon Slayed by Trophy Wife” on the cover.

“Would you like to tell your side of the story” She said folding the paper into her brief case.

“Can you get me some coffee” Ashana asked as she folded her arms and shook her head.

 

Sitting down in the dark interrogation room. Shaking that sugar into her coffee before adding the creamer. Shana rested her back against the cold steel chair.

“This is going to be a long story so get comfortable” Ashana said before slipped her long bounce curl back into her bun as her big golden eyes started to tell a sad story before she even opened her mouth.

“It all started when”….

 

To Be Continued….