Monday, April 20, 2015

Dating Maddness and Man Drama (Personal Story Time)


 I’m writing this because it’s been awhile since I spoke to ya’ll from a home girl point. This is about me and my man drama. This is going to be a long, funny, and crazy one. (Stay Tuned)

 

So recently I have become a little iffy about dating. Reasons why is because most guys don’t seem to be aiming for long term relationships. I use to say that “It’s understandable we’re young no one is actually looking to settle down”but now it just seem like I’m making up excuses for these guys. Anyone who knows me knows I tend to bond with guys a little bit better then females. Now I’m not saying that I gravitate around them because of that I have tons of female friends but most of us aren’t girly or prissy you know things people expect girls or women to be. We are what I like to call it “Girly Tom Boys” but I associate with a lot of guys. So when it comes to dating I tend to pick up on their little games a lot quicker then the average woman. So I’m always stuck with wondering do I come off to strong or do I basically have a no bull shit meter on my forehead that make them feel uncomfortable.

So I only felt like it was only right since I give relationship advice to put myself in a hot seat a tell ya’ll a little bit of my beez wax. I’m writing about 3 scenarios each one have a nick name that matches their personally.

Norman Bates

 

Ladies we have all had that Norman Bates. You know that guy that is crazy about you and when I say crazy I mean the actually psycho crazy. So being that I’m in a area where there isn’t many places to go and mingle. I turn to the web I never met anyone off the web “I’m going to clear that up now” but this is simply my way of mingling with the opposite sex. I’m young and attractive so of course falling in love, a long relationship, and marriage is never to far from my mind. My friends have been talking about this site called Tagged. So I go through the basic post my pictures write a couple of statuses and waited. In a matter of a few minutes I have 10 plus message and friend request so I’m like “Yassss” so there a guy who contacts me with I nice little poem. I was so impressed by the fact that he pay attention to the fact that I’m a poet and didn’t contact me based off of my profile picture. So I replied back which is something I barely do.Fast Forward two days later I see a message like “I Love You”. I was like stop, pause, rewind, and press play. “WHAT” so I kindly tell him it’s to soon for all of that I don’t know you and vice versa. He flipping like “I need you” and etc. So I stop replying I got really uncomfortable. So I’m going about my business one day and he message me like “I’m sorry I came off to strong, I’m not a creep or anything Idk what got in to me” because I’m a strong believer in everyone deserving a second chance. I replied back so this fool flips the script like “I don’t want to ever get married or have children because I don’t want to owe spend my hard earn money on alimony or child support if a relationship don’t work out” Ya’ll he lost me there. What’s the whole point of a relationship if the ultimate goal isn’t marriage. Yes a lot of times it never gets close to that but who in there right mind enter into a relationship like we can hold hands and smash until we die?

 

Stevie J

 

The guy with the baby momma he can’t seem to part ways with. So this was when I went to Edison Job Corps Academy. My bestfriend Toni introduced me to one of her male friends (I’m not giving to much info because a lot of people know him but very few knew about us) So everything cool. I’m taking a liking to him. He was sweet, funny, playful and very handsome (In my opinon). I was going through a lot of emoitions in general at this particular time in my life and he seemed to have came at the right time. I started noticing that a lot of times within our conversation I would give him advice and he would be like my “Baby Momma tells me the same thing” as conversation prolonged his baby momma kept popping up which was a extreme red flag. One thing I have learned from my brother figures is that a baby momma depending on ya’ll relationship is familiar #$%&* that for the most part is going to always be there. One day he hit me up when during lunch like met me out back so we can spend the rest of our lunch time together. So being that we have made it clear we were fond of one another I didn’t hesitate. So we walk around the campus talking and flirting. So I mention something about how college would benefit his future and etc. He replys “my baby momma told me that this weekend when I was spending time with her and my kids” That’s when I became very clear that I was a campus fling that he was pursuing with the hope of sticking his hand in my cookie jar and Baby Momma was Wifey. I never contacted him after that. Then he got kicked out of EJCA all together.

 

The case of the Joc

This is the man who’s a full blown hoe. He has tons of baby mommas, a main, and a hand full of sides.  The problem with this fool is he can play well. Have no signs that he’s involved with other women until it’s to late and you have developed feelings. So I met mine when I was a teenager and of course (I’m skimming on the details ya’ll don’t need to know everything) it was long before my little hormones went to racing. (My best friend Toni knows who I’m talking about) So I thought I was the luckiest girl in the world. He was sweet, kind, and he was fine! We talked for a little while and when my best friend and I became friends (The beginning of Tat and Toni) finds out this dude was macking to both of us. Later on we realize that he had a main chick, sidelines, and was swing that @#$% everywhere. We later became close friends and that’s about it. Don’t ever get serious with a hoe.

 

I know this is long but this is just some of my crazy man drama. For some reason I get the crazies.

 

If you like my ratchet love stories let me know I would do much more!

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