When Should You Let Go?

Sometimes letting go of something is the hardest thing for us to do. Rather it's a person, a item, or a situation. However, in order to grow they're somethings we have to part ways with.

We tend to hold on to people based on our past relationship with that person. We don't realize that what once made that relationship strong has faded away and as human being we constantly have hope that things would go back to the way they use to be. You have to understand that some individuals aren't meant to stay in our life forever. Like the saying goes "Some people are in you life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime". Discovering what purpose a person served within your life is crucial when trying to figure out if you should keep them around.

 When I was a teenager I was very rebellious during that period in my life I met a lot of people. Some were people that would hold a position in my life for the long haul and somewhere just there for the moment. When reflecting back on past friendships. I began to realize that most of my friends were gained through the carefree and wild attitude I once had and now that I'm more mature and conduct myself differently those people and myself no longer have anything in common. Which make it obvious that being a rebel was the glue that stuck us together and over the years that glue have lost it's tackiness.

Signs you need to let go..!

• If you are in any sort of a relationship with a person and you feel drained. No relationship should make you feel exhausted after being around that person. Now I'm meaning this as a recurrent feeling from being around this person not just a single occasion.
• If you have to prepare yourself to deal with that individual in a negative way . For Example: Say you and your home girl Keisha are planning to meet up later and you dread it to your soul, because Keisha just seem to carry around bad energy and you just know your gonna have a headache after being around her. So you make sure your either not sober upon linking up or have your turn up in a close range.( Simply because you going to need it before the night is over)
• If that person seems to low key diss you all the time. We have all had that friend you know that friend that for whatever reason can't compliment you without throwing in some shady ish. They say things like "Girl that dress is cute but that stomach tho" or " I see you in college now, if you didn't play around you would've been done" There's a thin line between being blunt and throwing shade.
• If that person act and treat you like you're beneath them.
• If you find your self in a competition all the time with that person.
• If that person make empty promises all that time. For Example: I once had a friend that would promise the moon and the sky and me being a silly billy I trusted her to come through when she said she would and every time she never did. However, she managed to be reliable when it came to everyone else. It didn't take long before our conversations became non-existing.
• If a person is hindering your personal growth.
• If a person tends to classify you by the mistakes you made in your past. Just because you made those mistakes doesn't mean that you deserve to be labeled according to them. (Check Out Tomorrows Blog for this topic)
• If that person just don't fit in your life anymore.

This list could go on forever but let's be honest we all know when a person have wore out their welcome in our lives. Moving on with your life is okay! Don't feel guilty for doing so.

Let me clarify somethings. Just because your letting those people go doesn't mean you do not care about them. In many cases if that person makes you feel a certain way. Than chances are you, yourself isn't sunshine and apple pie within their lives either. For the same reason your holding on they maybe holding on too. You just might have to be the one to break the bondage between the two of you in order for the both of you to flourish. Be honest with that person let them know how you feel and if there's room for changes. If you and that person could work on it then do so! For Example: Tell Keisha she carries bad energy and you feel drain when around her, Keisha may not recognize this herself and try to change because of your honesty, Improving your friendship with her in the long run. Now, when I say let go I mean it in the sense of loving that person from a distance and if there's value in that relationship then that bond would never actually break.

I really hoped this made sense (In didn't prewrite this one) and helped someone.

Love You Guys! XOXO!

Petals Falling Until Next Time!