You are not your mistakes!

Mistakes are very well something that every living human being or creature in general have experienced. We have all made them, they are those things that we learn and grow from. As children some of us had to write many lowercase "d's " before realizing that they weren't lowercase "b's" or we had to fall a few times before realizing that we should step over that "crooked crack in the side walk" instead of tripping on it. These mistakes never classified us as being stupid or clumsy children. So why is it that a few bad choices in our adolescences and early adulthood automatically paint a picture of who we are in the minds of fellow human beings?

Maybe some of us were more experimental sexually at an early age. That shouldn't be the sole reason that we are branded as being "A Hoe" "A Slut" or "Promiscuous" for our entire lives. Spending years trying to clear up your reputation (we all have one) only for some people to still classify you as such. For another example : Say you were (for lack of a better word) a thug. You was all about that street life. The drug dealing, gun slinging, lick hitting (robbery for those who don't know) and hoe selling (pimping) but you have changed your ways and aiming for a better more honest life. It's wrong for someone to classify you as a "Thug" when your trying to become a better man or woman.

You have to understand that some people tend to hold on to your pass as away to keep you in bondage. You could be a young woman who was recently engaged to the love of your life  and one of his homeboys that so happen to have known you during a certain period in your life could simply say "You can't turn a hoe into a house wife". You then find your self battling with those words to prove that you are worthy enough for true happiness all because of someone else perception of you based off of your mistakes. Rather you realize it our not his homeboy now have you in captivity trying to secure something that's suppose to already be yours, simply because he says you don't deserve it.

In contrary say your a young man struggling to make ends meet, but your comfortable in life. You have learned that you rather struggle and live a fulfilling straight and narrow life, but you past seems to follow you. Some criticize you for being responsibly broke (Having money to up keep your self but not living glamorous) your close friends never fail to remind you of how you lived your life. Some even encourage you to get back into it by make you feel worthless by saying  "He's a bum " "He ain't ish"  and etc. All because you decided to do things the right way and now you find yourself in a battle to prove that "The Hood Life" wasn't you but a phase you were going through

People tend to use others past mistakes as away to define them. You have to be able to realize that you are not your mistakes. As a matter of fact don't be ashamed of your mistakes from the get go. Only you know what your reasons where to do such things and sometimes even though our mistakes are partially our fault there are other players in it as well and those that condemn you do it on the bases of hearing a one sided story.

For the lack of a better example: Say that you met a guy and both of you establish a in a lovely relationship, but you know something isn't right.Later, you find out that you where the "Mistress" "Side Chick" or etc. People are now classifying you as a "Home Wrecker" without even considering the fact that you were being played too. It was your mistake because you should've walked away or confronted him when things didn't feel right. However, he was the one lying to the both of you and to save his own ass he decided to make it seem as if you were the one in the wrong by saying you were "Crazy" "Obsessed" "Delusional" and etc. Now he's classified as the good guy and your the pyscho chick.

You are not your mistakes. However, your mistakes have made you who you are today. If it wasn't for you being a "Wild" teenager you wouldn't know that you should carry your self differently now. If it wasn't for your failed relationships you wouldn't know that you deserve better. If it wasn't for your hangover you wouldn't know that you should drink in moderation and the list goes on.

Embrace being human, and never let anyone hold your mistakes over you as a way of crippling who you're destined to become.

I hope this helped someone!

Petals Falling Until Next Time!
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