Monday, September 28, 2015

Let It Flow! (Poetry Session)

Last Night

By: Empress Rose

Last Night, I had a dream about you and me.
It wasn't a fantasy like it use to be.
Running down the street.
Arms wide open.
As you confessed that it wasn't only me.
That you felt that this love was a mutual thing.
It was us standing close at a point in our lives.
Realizing that we misread each other eyes.
Mine screamed at you to DEPART!
Yours yelled at me HALT!
My mind fought with my heart.
Eyes could stand to see us apart.
You listened but I didn't.
Some how we found ourselves in front of each other.
Silence in between us as you stared at the pain you created.
Stripping down my feelings.
You were the cause of this illness, but instead of healing the pain.
You left my emotionally drained. 
Like a drug I would over dose on I still wanted more.
You left me feeling empty and sick from those withdrawals.
Last Night, I had and dream about you and me.
Despite the feeling of my heart falling in my chest.
I began to smile because your decision was the best.
I was happy.
Happy being where I wanted to be.
You seemed regretful  as you began to noticed that my smile wasn't one you gave to me.
You questioned me..
How could that be without me.
As you watch what would've been if you believed in me.
If you believed in us but you listened to your thoughts.
Someone came along and shower with love.
The kind of love that liberated me.
I didn't understand how he could but you couldn't cherish me. 
 It no longer matter as your face froze like plaster.
What a beautiful disaster.
Ending in my happily ever after.
Last Night, I had a dream about you and me.
We ran into each other.
You realized you mistakes to late.
You tried clear up the vain that you've made.
Didn't expect to find me in a good state.
Head High and GLOWING..
As another's love shined through me bright and golden.
Last Night, I had a dream about you and me..
I was someone else's QUEEN..
You were a lonely KING...

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Not Your Grandma's Chicken and Pastries (Sunday Dinner Edition)

Not Your Grandma's Chicken and Pastries

Ingredients

  • 2 pounds of chicken leg quarter (Dark Meat is the best for this dish)
  • 2 Larger Onion Sliced
  • Kosher Sea Salt
  • Pepper (Cayenne, Black, and White
  • Chicken bouillon
  • Basil,  Thyme, Rosemary, and Orgeno
  • 2 Cups of All Purpose Flour 
  • 1 cup water
  • Oil
Broth: In a bowl brine your leg quarters over night in salt water. Remove chicken and place in a large pot with a touch oil and slightly brown them on all sides. Slice your onion and add to the pot sautee for a few minutes before adding your pepper, herbs,chicken bouillon , and a touch of salt. Fill you pot to the rim with water and bringing it to a boil then letting it simmer for a about 2 to 3 hours ( over cooking the chicken would make it stringy, if thats how you get down by all mean forget about it as for me I rather have chucks of chicken in my broth) 

Pastries: In a large bowl add your flour and a pinch of salt. Whisk lightly, Add a teaspoon of oil and your water a splash at a time (make sure it's warm water, cold water makes the dough tough and har to work with) mix it until all the dry flour is combine and the dough is firm. Let it sit for 10 minutes under a dry clean cloth. On a floured surface began to knead yoyr dough about 50 times would do. Roll it out with a rolling pin to about a half of centimeter thick. Then cut the dough into long strips our squares. Store them in a floured container until ready for use.

Combine: Remove chicken from pot. Taste your broth and add salt if needed or water if needed. Remove chicken from the bones and add back into pot. Slowly drop the pasteries in a few at a time stirring so they won't stick. When the pasteries are tender they your done! You can add sweet peas just for a pop of color and a touch of sweetness. 
 Now it isn't the best looking meal in the world but lord it's good!

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Reiligon v.s Public Schools


Religion vs Public Schools



In a country founded on religious freedom. The debate of having religion in our public schools has been the source of enormous conflict. This question dates back further than the 19th century and is the foundation of many heated discussions that takes place in this day and age. The vast majority oppose the thought of religion being present in our public schools system. Relying on the section of “The First Amendment” of the US. Constitution. That states “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting free exercise thereof”. This amendment also established “The Separation of Church and State” which is the political and legal doctrine that establishes that religious and government institutions should be kept separate and independent of one another. Many people questions the actual meaning of these documents predicting that when this amendment was created it wasn’t intended to be imposed so strictly. Some even raise contradictory questions about religious liberty in a pluralistic society (Congressional Digest, 1995).  Teaching religion in our public schools would be beneficial today when religious illiteracy is becoming a concern.  What better way can we teach the importance of respecting and appreciating diversity and instill moral values into those who would one day become our future leaders? Other than to include religion into our public school curriculum. After all religious lessons can encourage and promote moral conduct within students, act as and is a form of therapy, and teach children how to be more understanding of people and the world around them.

Over the years what have once been morally unacceptable is suddenly becoming what we consider normal. William Bennet (Former Secretary of Education) once stated in his cultured index that between the decades of 1960-1990 there have been a steady moral decline. In which during this time frame divorce, teenage pregnancy, teen suicide, child abuse, high violent crime and abortion have increased drastically (Eliassin, 2011). Although Mr. Bennet was speaking of the nation as a whole. Our children, preteens, and teenagers are being influenced by their peers and the highly sexualized media such as erotic novels, music videos, sitcoms, reality television shows, X-rated movies and gossip magazines. Many may agree that the way many of our youth presently conduct themselves is absurd, disgraceful and disrespectful. Which shows it’s affect within their academic lives. The Center of Disease Control and Prevention reported in 2007 that 5.9% of students carry weapons to school, 7.8% have been threatened and/or injured on campuses nationwide, 12.4 have been in physical fights on school grounds and that 5.3% of students no longer attend school because they don’t feel safe (Eliassin,2011). This illustrates the importance of teaching moral values at an early age. It is difficult to teach lessons on how to conduct ourselves morally without teaching about religion. Being that most of the strong moral beliefs originated from various religious practices. It’s almost like peanut butter and jelly they’re very few times where you can make a reference to one without making one to the other. Eliminating lessons about such topics out of our academic curriculum have left a gap open for an early acceptance of immoral behavior amongst our youth.

 Prayer and religion gives a sense of faith, hope, and peace within the individuals that incorporate them within their lives. This create a positive atmosphere even in hectic places and times. Prayer in itself is believed to have healing and therapeutic properties. Dr. Randolph Byrd discovered this when he conducted a study that shocked the world regarding prayer. Cardiologist Byrd studied 393 patients in a San Francisco Hospital coronary care unit. All of the participants suffered from similar conditions and symptoms. He randomly separated this group into two. One conducted with intercessory prayer and one without. When the study concluded Dr. Byrd found that there was an enormous difference in the quality of recovery, with those who received prayer based treatment than with those who didn’t. He also reported that those patients conducted with intercessory prayer were less likely to suffer a heart attack or heart disease (Byrd, 1988). Proving prayer can act as a source of strength to those who struggle with physical disorders.  In a study conducted in Rush University Medical Center in Chicago. Participating was a total of 136 adult patients diagnosed with major depression or bipolar depression. After admission these patients were surveyed for treatment using the standard instruments in social sciences for assessing intensity, severity and depth of disease and feelings of hopelessness and spiritual satisfaction. This study found that those with strong beliefs in a personal and a concerned God were more likely to experience an improvement. Patricia Murphy, PhD a Chaplin at Rush stated “In our study, the positive response to medication had little to do with the feeling of hope that typically accompanies spiritual belief, specifically it was tied to the belief that a Supreme Being existed and cared." (Rush University Medical Center, 2010)  These two studies illustrates that religion is indeed a form of therapy for various medical disorders. Which could decrease the number of children who struggle with suicidal thoughts, feelings of worthlessness, and urges to inflict harm to themselves and others. By creating a sense of self-worth and understanding that all life has a purpose, changes the level of acceptance within themselves and those around them.

The absence of knowledge based on religion can prevent children from understanding other cultures, tradition, and values of their peers. Muslim American after the attack on September, 11, 2001 faced increase hostility and negative stereotyping being expressed by a majority of society. Muslim immigrant more so than any other immigrants were faced with negative attitudes. These events have increased racial and religious animosity which left Arabs, Middle Easterners, Muslims, and those who bear a stereotyped physical resemblance to members of these groups, fearful of potential hatred and hostility from people of other cultures (Khan and Ecklund, 2012) This discrimination developed not only because of the tragedy on that day but because of inaccurate knowledge of these traditions and beliefs. Islamic individuals aren’t the only ones who face such discrimination.  Other religions have stereotypical views attached to them as well. Verifying that those who are ignorant to other cultures tend to identify them based on what is demonstrated in the media and the opinions of those around them. Most of the issues regarding untruthful judgement in this nation derive from the unfamiliarity with a person’s appearance, cultures, beliefs, and traditions. In teaching about different religions children would be able to mold their own opinions about diverse cultures.  In the 2005 study called The Bible Literacy Project only 10% of teenagers could name all 5 of the major religions and 15% couldn’t name any  (Laycock,2015). Demonstrating that not only will religious curriculum benefit children personally but academically and later on professionally as well. Our nation include people of various religions, languages, economic groups, and other cultural groups. In order to build communities that are able to improve conditions and resolve issues, we have to understand and appreciate our differences, form relationships with these individuals apart from our own culture, and build strong relations with one another. Teaching religion in our public school system would build and establish a foundation for understanding all religions.  Religious ideas have been known to affect politics, economics and law. In fact, Puritans of the 16th and 17th century broke away from The Church of England in pursuit of pure religion. They created a system where God was the most important aspect of life. Their ideas influenced New England colonies political, economic, and social development. The way power was separated by men and what they consider sinful behavior structured their politics and their ideas on trading shaped New England’s economics (The History Channel, 2009).

Although they’re various reasons why religion should be restored back into our public school. The majority think that it would be absurd and unconstitutional. Senator Lowell Weicker once stated “The mix of religion and politics is unhealthy and detrimental to our government”. He believed that accommodating prayer in school is just another burden that schools don’t need in a day filled with too many distraction already (Goldberg, 1996). There have also been various cases where religion in public schools have created major problems. (McCollum v. Board of Education (1947) was one of the earlier cases were the supreme court ruled against a law in Illinois that allowed religious instructors to enter public schools during the day for “Voluntary” worship and theological instruction. As a follow up to this case (Zorach v. Clauson1952) emerged when the idea of students leaving public school campus during the day for religious teachings offsite call “Release Time”. This idea was upheld by The Supreme court on a 6-3 vote (Boston, 2012).  However, after both of these cases prayer and/or bible studies where still active in public schools. Until the case of Engel v. Vitale (1962) which was the first in a series of cases where the court used the establishment cause to eliminate religious activity of all sorts which had been included in public ceremonies during that time. Justice Hugo Black wrote for the majority during this case stating “When the power, prestige and financial support of government is placed behind a particular religious belief, the indirect coercive pressure upon religious minorities prevailing officially approved religion is pain” (Congressional Digest) These are just a few oppositions to the thought of religion in public schools based on our judicial system. However, they are other reasons why people oppose religion in public schools. Discrimination being the most popular reasons why people cringe at the idea. Especially, with children being persecuted for their individual beliefs like high school student Jessica Ahlquist who was victimized for stick up for the “Separation of Church and State” doctrine. After winning a federal ruling last year in Rhode Island to remove a prayer banner from her public school. As a result of her victory in the courtroom she had to be escorted to school by police because of vicious threats of violence and retribution and later opt for private tutoring (Gaylor, 2014). Unwanted indoctrination is another popular reason as most parents want to have control of what is being taught to their children. Atheist parents don’t want their child having the possible indoctrination into any one of the many world religious beliefs and parents of one religious background find distaste in their child being taught about another, because of the fear that one religion would be taught as being more superior to the one they believe in.

Even though both sides of this topic have its valid reasons for their opinions. We must not forget that there was a time when religion was present in our public schools.  During those times there was less violence on school grounds and our youth carried themselves in a respectful manor. Many believe that removing religion out of our classrooms is the cause of the immoral decline in our youth. However, the vast majority still have similar views as the Supreme Court Justice in the state of Wisconsin who stated that “There is no such source and cause of strife, quarrel, fights, malignant opposition, persecution, and war, and all evil in the state, as religion. Let it once enter our civil affairs, our government would soon be destroyed. Let it once enter our common schools, they would be destroyed" (Gaylor, 2014). The question is; if done tastefully, how bad could teaching religion in public school be? After all, allowing prayer in public school could instill positive moral values, help alleviate violence, decrease in dropout rate, teenage pregnancy, a securer educational experience, and other societal problems (Congressional Digest, 1995). Especially, since we are living in a country where religion was so important that our currency and historical documentations make references to God.  I would like to end this with a quote from Pearl. S. Buck “The Story Bible”. “The scripture of any religion are fascinating and profound revelation of the struggle of the souls of men and women to find the source of their being and the causes of life and death”





















Works Citied

  • Gaylor, Annie Laurie. "The Dangers of Religious Instruction in Public Schools." Religion Politics.
  • Laycock, Joseph. "If We Don’t Teach Religion in Schools, Americans Will Never Understand the Rest of the World." Quartz.
  • Byrd, Randolph C. "Positive Therapeutic Effects of Intercessory Prayer in a Coronary Care Unit Population." Southern Medical Journal 81.7 (1988): 826-29. God and Science. Web.
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  • Boston, Rob. "5 Supreme Court Decisions Pandering to Christianity." Alternet. N.p., 24 Apr. 2012. Web.
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  • Rush University Medical Center. "Belief in a caring god improves response to medical treatment for depression, study finds." ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 24 February 2010
  • Khan, Mussarat, and Kathryn Ecklund. "Journal of Muslim Mental Health." Attitudes Toward Muslim Americans Post-9/11. Michigan Publishing, 2012.




Monday, September 21, 2015

Let's Get Little Deep! ( Personal Talk)



Many people have seemed to have been annoyed with that fact that I seem to only talk about school lately. This actually bothers me because at one point these were the very same individuals who would bash me for "Not Doing Anything In My Life".

The reason why I talk about school so much is simply because it's honestly a testimony of mines. Every possible thing that would make anyone say "Eff It" happened. Some even left my so broken that I could see straight for awhile (figure of speech).

It got to the point were it was my student loans stopping me then after that.  Some destroy all of my academic documentation, certifications, and etc (This is were I became broken). I went through absolute hell trying to get that back countless letters and phone calls that lead no where.

This took place for three years straight (Other things took place during this time that were frequent but minor road blocks) I went through a period of absolute hatred simply because how could someone have been so evil to destroy something I worked so hard for and genuinely needed in order to move on to the next level in my life. Personally I didn't do anything to that person but simply because they felt like they were in some sort of power at that time they decided steal something so meaningful and play God by so call putting a restriction of how far I would go in life.

It was a struggle I went through years of not being able to do many things and the solution was always "If I was in school at least I could be working towards a better life" After finally obtain proof of credentials  ( Still haven't gotten proper copies) then I was the issue of not having computer or transportation to get to the community college.

It took a few months but the Lord. Made away without me settling for something less just to say I'm doing something. My mom and I found a computer at a reasonable price that we could pay off monthly.

When this year started something just told be it was time I called the previous schools I spoke to it was only a few (Did my research on what would be the prefect fit for me, keep in mind your investing in your future)  and The list was (University of Phoenix, Liberty University, and Southern New Hampshire University) each having it own single reason for being on that list Phoenix was somewhere recommended to me by my mother's old boss back when I was 18. Being a Doctor I trusted her insight.  Liberty hands down is a Christian College that's close enough for my to travel to for events in the future. SNHU was all I dreamed of as a college it's a non-profit, easy going, flexible, and their main goal is you achieving.

SNHU accepted me first and I rolled with the process everything happened so fast after that. (I was as if the Lord opened the door himself and said it's time for this to happen now) Moral of the story is everything happens in Gods time. It's hard you maybe struggling but when its his time he would give to you what he claim as yours.  Not mind to road blocks they would soon be removed. Recognize someone's testimony and keep the mind set that if he did it for them he'll do it for me too..

Hope this helped someone...

Love You Guys..

Petals Falling Until Next Time!!!xoxo!

Monday, August 10, 2015

Blog Update (What Ideas are in the Future)


So I have been running this blog for the past 7 months. Although I have taken a few breaks due to life this blog has been active in my opinion.

Lately, I have been thinking about making some changes to the organization of my content. Changes such as creating a separate blog for nail art and diy crafts once I get the all the materials to do so.

A review blog, don't really know if I'm going to link it on here or the separate blog being that most of my reviews would have something to do my projects.

Seems like some of you guys adore the relationship advice thinking about doing a spin off for that to or I just might keep it on here.

Finally, I'm thinking of doing a psychology and sociology spin off so some of you guys can learn these fascinated fields and disorders along with me.

Some of these changes would start to take place slowly, I am constantly studying, doing assignments, cooking, cleaning (or as someone once told me practicing for the role of a wife/mom) and by the end of the day blogging is the last thing on my mind (I'm trying to do better)

When should you look for these changes: God is willing the beginning of next year I would love to have at least a hand full of content on each one before I launch them.

Wednesday, August 5, 2015

What To Cook Wensday

Sweet Sriracha Salmon

Ingredients


·         Sriracha Sauce

·         Coarse Sea salt

·         1 ¼  pound of Salmon Fillets skin removed

·         1 large chopped Vidalia Onion

·         Garlic

·         Black pepper

·         2 table spoons of brown sugar

·         Olive Oil

·         Scallion

·         cilantro

Directions

Lightly season the salmon fillets with the sea salt and black pepper.  In a medium size pan add a few drops of olive oil and start the heat to a medium high. Wait a few minutes before placing your salmon fillets in your pan. Brown them on both sides then remove them. Place you chopped Vidalia onion and garlic and sautéed them until they are translucent. Place your salmon on top of the sautéed veggies and place a lid over the pan. Turn the heat down to a medium. In a separate bowl mix your sriracha and brown sugar in a bowl loosen it up with water and pour the mixture over the salmon and cook until it’s cooked all the way through. Can be garnished with scallions and cilantro then served.

Oven Directions

Preheat oven to 425 degrees, In a bowl whisk brown sugar, sriracha, salt, black pepper and water. Place salmon fillets in a lightly greased baking dish. Pour sriracha mixture on top cover with lid or aluminum foil. Roast until cooked through and flaky. About 15 minutes.  Can be garnished with scallion or cilantro, then served.

Serving tips

Pairs well with rice and steamed vegetables or on top of a salad.


Tuesday, August 4, 2015

Social Stigma On Mental Health Disorders



Social Stigma on Mental Health Disorders

 

There’s definitely a social stigma on mental health disorders although it’s slowly declining. Stephen P Hinshaw stated that “Of all the stigmatized conditions in current society, mental health illness is at the top of the list”. I agree with this statement most people have labeled mental health illnesses as being “Insane”. People that are diagnosed with mental disorders tends to be discriminated against and is often subjected to social isolation.

One of my family members have been diagnosed with bipolar. Although I have never witnessed him act strange and he seems to be functional and social around people. The majority of the family sway away from him. Making comments such as “I can’t deal with him and his mood swings” or “He’s crazy don’t mind him” warning people about his illness as if it defines him as a person.

Society isn’t very knowledgeable about mental health disorders. They classify people with some of the more popularized disorders such as depression, bipolar, and anxiety. As unstable, lazy, and out of control.

A survey of 1700 adults in the U.K during the year 2000. Found that most of the participants view people who suffer with schizophrenia, alcoholism and drug dependence as dangerous. Eating disorders and substance abuse are self-inflicted and

over all people with mental health disorders are hard to talk to. (Crisp, Gelder, Rix, Meltzer et al., 2000; Bryne, 1997; Heginbotham, 1998). 

These are the views of society. Many people are afraid of being labeled, isolated and discriminated against. So they refuse to seek medical attention for a proper diagnoses and some know they have a disorder but avoid or afraid to seek treatment. We are taught to hide our negative feelings in public settings and those who can’t control their composure are weak.  This is why many feel that they are alone with their mental health issues and opt not to talk about their problems with others.  Some are in denial because they refuse to believe or except that something is wrong with them because of the social stigma associated with psychological disorders

I have friends and family members that are struggling with mental disorders such as depression, bipolar, schizophrenia and anxiety. Who are in denial because they are afraid of accepting that’s something is wrong until their behavior spiraled out of control. Instead of seeking therapy to help them cope with their disorders. Some turn to control substances which worsens their symptoms due to their dependence on these substances.  Most isolate themselves because of the criticism from their peers. Others normalize their disorders because what is considered abnormal today was considered normal a few decades ago.

Mental health disorders are showing up more frequently in the media because celebrities are being diagnose. Although they have proved to the world that some misconceptions geared toward mental health disorders are wrong.  Few have publicly opened up and talked about their struggles. A great deal of hotlines and websites which are resources for people with mental health disorders have been created. For those individual who need to talk to someone confidentially or information on how to cope in a healthily manner.  Yet, it seems like more things need to be done in order to erase the stigma.

 Personally my opinion is the only way is to educate people about mental health. Ignorance can be a dangerous thing, people tend to negatively categorize things that they don’t understand. By educating people about psychological disorders they would realize that not only are the symptoms of many disorders are similar, but some of these symptoms are things that they themselves consider to be normal.  Mood swings, anxiousness, and extreme sadness just to name a few, are things that many people experience at some point within their lives. Once people begin to realize that we all have problems and question; What is Normal? What is Abnormal? The stigma would change, more people would seek medical attention, and suicide rates would decrease.

 

 

Resources

The Mark of Shame: Stigma of Mental Illness and an Agenda for Change. Hinshaw, Stephen P. New York, NY, US: Oxford University Press (2007) www.psycnet.apa.org

Mental Health & Stigma, Aug 20,2013. Graham C.L Davey. Ph.D. www. Psychologytoday.com