What to Cook Wednesday..!

Cajun Cornish Hens

Ingredients

• 2 Cornish Hens
• Onion (Optional)
• Cajun Spices
• Rosemary
• Red Pepper Flakes
• Butter or Olive Oil
• Sea Salt
• Black Pepper

Directions

If it has already been done remove all the inner parts of the Cornish Hens. If you want to butterfly then this is the time to do so. Rub your Herbs, Spices and Butter or Olive Oil on your hens. Make sure to rub underneath the skin but be careful not to rip the skin. Set the chicken aside for the minimum of 30 minutes. Slice a large onion (this is optional I'm one of those people that don't like the cooking meat without onion)  Preheat you oven to 350 degrees. Lightly grease you baking pan and cover the bottom with your onions, place your hens on top  and cover the pan. Bake for 1 hour and 30 minutes. Don't forget to base your hens ever 15 minutes or so. (You might have to remove your lid for the skin to crisp up on the hens do this within the last 20 minutes) Remove the hens from the oven and let them rest before serving.

Tips for Serving

This can be served in many different ways either with salads or along side roasted potatoes you can mix up the sides with this particular chicken dish.

Celibacy Lifestyle: (My Views)

 

 

 

Celibacy: Why some people are opting to live this lifestyle

This day and age sex which use to be something intimate between to people that care for one another has become so casual. Virtually a thriving relationship without sex and seem to be something that we only hear about in rated pg-13 formatted media for preteens. Many people tend to stop believing in saving themselves for someone special after that have already engaged in sexual activities. So the whole hope of waiting until marriage seem to be erased out of their mind set. However, some individuals are making the choice of straying away from sex until that special person comes along.

You maybe asking yourself why after already letting “Thieves rob from your temple”, but after realizing how sex have changed over the years you maybe thinking about making the change yourself. For me I haven’t made this choice simply because of the fact that I know myself and I really don’t know what the future might hold and don’t want to feel guilty if I had to give into my urges. However, I do agree with the view of “not having just anyone enter into my body”. The prefect analogy is see your body as being your home. You wouldn’t let just anyone come to your house because it’s your sanctuary and only special people can say they have had the pleasure of your hospitality.  

Sex use to be something the sealed the deal of actual feelings and now. Our generation don’t mind throwing our stuff from wall to wall everything is highly sexualized today. Including or children (Read my blog on sex education for more info about sex ed) so its hard to tell what someone really wants from a relationship. At one point it was clear when a  girlfriend or boyfriend changed from liking you to falling in absolute love. Now, we have to question feelings many people can relate to opening up because of love only to realize they were involved in a game they didn’t even know was being played until they gave away the prize. This is one reason why a person decides to wait for that special person to come along. They’re many other reasons involving the epidemic of sexually transmitted diseases and wanting to go through testing and then come to a point to complete trust in there partners before engaging in a sexual relationship. Some are making this decision because of being born again and giving their lives to the Lord.

We all know that fornication is spoken about in the bible and many of us feel as if we failed because we couldn’t wait until marriage. Especially, when marriage is no longer something promised, or permeant. Ok, Imma be real most of us just grew up and tried to be grown just to dang on fast. I know I did and I don’t regret my decisions in life I either learned from them or grew from them one way or the other. I just believe that it time to erase the stigma of impurity because a person had sex before marriage. If they want to regain responsibility in their sex life a wait from vows or someone they know is going to respect them and their bodies then let them do it freely without holding their past above their heads. We have all made mistakes in life and like a few people I hold close to me once said “Everyone has had a hoe moment” Although this statement might not be 100% true. Everyone has done something they aren’t to happy about and their past choices shouldn’t prevent them from happiness and if they feel like a celibate lifestyle is the way to build a strong foundation for life-long intimacy then simply respect their decision.

Love the skin your in!.(My experience with self love)

I'm writing this because many young people have been through this growing up. For those who have never been through they simply don't seem to understand what it's like to feel alienated inside of your own skin.

Growing up, I would say that I wasn't the prettiest or had the best body in school, but I would say I was uniquely beautiful in my own way. Coming for a mother who is an extremely beautiful mixed African American woman and a father who was uniquely handsome Tanzanian man. Looking like my father I didn't look like the other children in my class. As with everything when you look different your a target for the evil comments about your appearance.

By the time I was in the third grade I started to realize that not only did I have large slanted eyes, a full bottom lip and I blessed with my father's flat nose. That I was bigger then mostly everyone else. It wasn't the lack of activity because I ran just as fast, danced just as good,  jumped just as high, and you can just say I kept up with the smaller girls. So most of my friends where smaller girls. Except for a few.

This was at the age when I started to become interested in boys and I was noticing that they looking passed me and at my friends. I think this is when I begin to pretend like it didn't bother me even though it did. This is when I began to eat my feelings. I wasn't the typical over weight girl that stuffed my face with cookie and cakes (My mother didn't really keep such things in the house) but when that moment came I binged. Being in denial saying that  I'm good I don't eat that much Monday through Saturday I only eat a lot on Sundays so I should be fine. I wasn't fine I continued to blow up.

It wasn't until 8th grade in middle school when I began to realize I wasn't the only one who was uniquely beautiful and that I should except my beauty for what it was (different) Just because I was feeling good didn't mean the name calling, little remarks, and stuff like that ended, it continued. Once I was I  High School I was able to prefect the image  of "not caring" but I use to go home and look at myself in the mirror and just be upset.  It just felt like I was just blessed with an amazing personality but very few people took the time out to show interest in knowing me.

High School was the place where I rebelled because I felt like no one understood me and when I came across those who excepted me I tend to have been a little rebellious. It was like run across a bunch of misfits for different reasons and finally feeling like you belonged. School had became a memory for me I no longer wanted to be there so I started cutting class a lot. Then eventually said to hell with school all together at the age of 16.

When I was 17 it dawned on me after being out of school for a few months that I was a drop out and decided that if I was going to fix anything in my life I was going to fix not having a diploma and enrolled in Job Corps. I remember people swearing that I couldn't do it.  That's when I can say was the first time that I did something that wasn't rebellious because people said I couldn't. I began to realize my strength during this time ( might sound crazy) but regardless of how I felt on the inside. I had just freshly turned 17, packed up my bags, and went somewhere with a bunch of people I didn't know in a location I've never been. I was without my friends (Whom I consider my family), my mother was everything, and I was at a place I couldn't run away from whenever I wanted to . A month after what was suppose to have been the beginning of  my senior started I had my diploma and that was the moment.

I stopped basing my life on what people said about me. I'm not gunna lie I still cared but I no longer let there word's define me. That's when I had a peace of mind for everyone who called me ugly, fat, stupid, dumb, and etc there was someone who said the opposite. I made it my mission to only focus on the positivity in my life. Did I continue to rebel? of course I was a teenager with very strict mother but I wasn't rebelling against myself.

Children these days have it so much worst at least when I was growing up I didn't have a Kardashian Family that the world thought everyone and their bodies should look like. I was never the one to open up about my feelings growing up but if no one tell our children that they too felt such was then like me they're going to feel alone lucky for my mom I just rebelled. Some kids actually take their lives because of this.

I started to paint my picture based on my perception of myself and no one has been able to tell me that my abstract art wasn't beautiful...

Hope this Helped Someone!

Love You Guys!

Petals Falling til Next Time! xoxoxo!

Jayson (Chapter One: The Rose Garden)

Chapter One

It wasn’t the Uhaul nor was it the 18 hour drive but the smell of fresh tobacco growing in the fields and the sound of cows mooing that made Azania realize that it was actually happening. She thought she was prepared mentally, emotionally, and physically for this but was she saddened by the realization that life as she had known it was now states away from her.

The life that she had become so accustom to and with all the trails she had to overcome just so she could be comfortable. She was conflicted by the thoughts that she had to start all over again.

“ Don’t tell me your ass is already catching feelings about leaving ” Sina said looking over at the passenger side as Azania gazed out the car window.

Sina being the oldest sister had been planning to leave the hood for the past few years but her financial state never made it possible. Both, She and Azania were products of a crack head mother and father. Growing up neither of them knew it wasn’t normal for a grown man to feel up on them so their momma could get her fix or she I say medicine. The years of growing up to fast started to finally take it’s toll but Sina sacrificed herself for her sister and moving to West Bubble Fuck, North Carolina was more of her running away.

“Catching feeling about leaving where? Bitch, Please”! Azania said knowing that in the back of her mind she couldn’t stop thinking about New Jersey.

Marion danced in her head from the moment she told him she was leaving. For the first time in the whole charade they called a relationship he actually showed some emotion. Although, she went through so much hell with him and deep down she really wanted it to work. Despite, the babies he had on her and public humiliation of staying in the position of being the side chick as he made it official with woman after woman. It was something special about his presence that made her naïve to his deceit and she just wanted to feel that presence for the long haul. 

The Black Cadillac turned into the long Greystone marbled drive way that lead up to a doubled black bared gate with the letter “W” engraved in old Victorian cursive. The sister couldn’t keep from looking at one another as they cruised through what was left to them by their grandmother on their father’s side. A house finally appeared through the evergreen trees and rose bushes that decorated the edges of the perimeter. The house looked like it had a lot of history tied to it and despite being vacant for the past 10 year the bushes were trimmed, walk way was swept, and the roses. The roses were in full bloom and glossed as if they were crystalized.

“These roses are beautiful, strange thing is we are in the middle of fall, shouldn’t they be died by now”! Sina exclaimed before looking puzzled.

Her phone rung for the fiftieth time that day. Causing Azania to look at her placing her hands on her wide hips. Sina quickly popped open the trunk removing suit-case after suit-case. She was trying to conceal the fact that she was a nervous wreck. Just knowing that Uche was looking for her even if he was on the stoop somewhere in Brooklyn. For years she had been involved in what seemed like the prefect union between two people on the surface. Being with Uche was her hell here on earth and sometimes she felt as if he was Satan himself. Azania focused her attention from her sister knowing that in due time she would figure out what made such an upbeat person suddenly so timid. She started following the trail that lead to the rear side of the mini-mansion.  She could almost in vision the mulatto little girl that was once her grandmother playing on that trail with her sisters. In some strange way for the first time in her life she felt like she was at home. The backyard patio stretched out to what seemed to be a little oasis surrounded by trees and more roses. Leaving the tell-tell sign that it was once filled with party guest often as she remembered the rumors of their great-grandfather being the town’s infamous bootlegger.  Azania was always the inquisitive sister out of the two and her eyes couldn’t  lose focus of the metal bar gate that the beautiful evergreens hid except for one small section. It was in her nature to enter places she shouldn’t and before she could even think of it being hidden for a reason she was pulling at the gate.

“Damn it, it’s locked” She thought being slightly fascinated by the thought that there was a secret passage way in her own backyard.

“Zania” ! Sina yelled running towards the back of the house like she had just seen a ghost.

Sina stood almost pale and shaking, peering out into the garden not being able to embrace the beauty of what she was looking at.

“Zania”! She yelled again this time walking off the patio trembling. What she had just laid her eyes on made her fear that something got to her baby sister.

Azania ran out the garden smiling then stopping as Sina threw her arms around her as if she thought she would never see her again.

“Bitch, what the fuck is wrong with you” Azaina yelled as her sister started to sob on her shoulder.

“I just saw some guy standing in our window” She exclaimed breaking away from Zania.

“You just saw what” Azania asked in a chuckle. Although she herself was a little frighten. Knowing that Sina had a way of being overly dramatic when she had someone freaking out a long with her made her play it off.

“Sina, you just need some sleep after all it has been a long way here and you have to be tired. I’m more then positive no one is in there.”

She knew it was the wrong time to mention the secret gate in the garden or even the fact that she was sense a presence of something. Something that seemed to have been welcoming them there since they arrived.

to be continued................................................

What to cook Wednesday

Jerk Tilapia

Ingredients

• 8 Tilapia Fillets
• Jamaican Jerk Seasoning
• Splash or Lemon or Lime Juice
• 1 Large Onion
• Olive Oil

Directions

Rub your Tilapia with jerk seasoning on both side. Set aside for 30 mintues ( Jerk is a powerful spices you really don't need to add anything else to it) Cut up your large onion and sautéed it in a pan with olive oil until translucent. Place your fish in the pan brown on both side and splash some lime juice on top. Cook until flaky then serve.

Oven Directions

Rub your Tilapia with the jerk seasoning on both sides, Set aside for 30 minutes. Preheat your oven to 350 degrees. Grease your baking dish. Cut up and line the bottom with your onions. Place the fish on top and bake until flaky should take about 15-20 minutes. Remove from oven and splash some lime juice on top them serve.

Other Tips

This dish can be garnished with cilantro and served in various ways. Prefect for meal prep. When buying the jerk seasoning is best to go with the authentic spice the knock offs are knock offs for a reason how ever if its the only thing you can find it will do. This doesn't have to be made with Tilapia. It would also be great with  King Fish, Salmon, Snapper, and Shrimp

 

 

 

Mass Animal Deaths

Animals Dying

What if I told you that we are living in a planet that seems to slowly be dying off. Would you be concern? Well that exactly what seems to have been happening over the past few years across of planet. Animal are dying in large masses. What is killing them? Some say global warming and others are just simply baffled. These are some of the reports of some of our fellow living creatures dying and why we should be concern.

Over the past few years there have been an on going mystery of what is killing off our life sources.
Is it true that our world's climate changes may be the cause of the killing off of some of our food and clothing sources. In Puno, Peru where they have been enduring below 20 degree weather baby alpacas have been coming up dead from pneumonia. People are asking for medicine for these babies because alpacas are a used for survival in such region of the world as it provide material for clothes and in some places food.

If it's not the weather killing off our life sources what else could it be? How about diseases? In Ghana, 3,600 birds had to be slaughter because of the avian flu. It's not just happening in Ghana but also in Georgia and other parts of the world.

Some of these cases are  down right mysteries.

Why should we be concerned simply because these are the sources from where we survive from. Yes, some of these animal you may not consume but within this circle of life these animals are beneficial to each other including us. What could these death mean? I'm not going to even go into the details however this is a topic for you to do your own research.

Most Recent Cases

•  In Brussels, Belgium Hundreds of dead fish found floating in a canal on July,10,2015
• In Puno, Peru 12,000 plus baby alpaca have died "due to cold" on July,9,2015 
•  In Jura, France hundreds of dead fish was found in a river on July,8,2015
• Along 150,000 plus fish washed up Neuse River in Craven County, N.Carolina on July,7,2015 

These are just a few of the mass deaths out of 489 reports from 70 country/terrorities The link to the website where I retrieved this information is: http://www.end-times-prophecy.org/animal-deaths-birds-fish-end-times.html  if you want to checkout more reports

It's okay to be a Diva on a Budget

This blog is strictly for those girls that love looking good and know for a fact that it doesn't take a arm and a leg to do so theses are a few cheap things and places that I recommend for you to look your best at what ever budget that your on. I'm going keep it real though something's are worth the splurge, but the secret to having money is spending as less as possible on things you want instead of actually needing.

If your one of those girls that don't believe in spending outrageous prices just because you have it in your bank account and the item seems to be the hottest thing on the market. Here's a secret the hottest thing on the market in the summer is old news during fall. So your basically trying to keep up with the Jones for one season.

It's okay to be a diva on a budget and who the heck said being wise about what you purchase and reclaimed it as being ratchet? Ratchet is not saving it's how you carry yourself. It doesn't matter if your clothes still come from Rainbow's or your eyeliner isn't from Mac as long as you as a person carry your self a certain way any who here's the list you've been waiting for.

Makeup

BH Cosmetics: This makeup company are on the cheaper side but it's quality makeup. Well I can only speak for the eye shadows. I'm not a face makeup kind of girl but if their foundation,lip products and blush is anything like there eye shadows then they're amazing.  The best thing about this company is the sales they are constantly having sales on top of already being affordable.
Website: www.bhcosmetics.com

ELF Cosmetics: Although I haven't brought from them recently E.L.F cosmetics is also a affordable makeup site. Warning: some of the things on this site isn't what I would call amazing but truth is you expect what you pay for and some of there items are better then the price. Such as there lip glosses and face setting mist. What I personally praise them for are their cheap and single brushes. Their brushes aren't Sedona Lace are Sigma but they get the job done pretty damn well.
website: http://www.eyeslipsface.com

L.A Girl Cosmetics: I know exactly what your thinking. Isn't that the same brand from the beauty supply store and yes it is. Never sleep on beauty supply store products. L.A girl lip paints are amazing! So is there glide on eyeliner there are truly some gems within this company you never expect.
website: http://www.lagirlusa.com


Accessories and Makeup

Shop Miss A: This is one of those sites that just so happen to be a one stop for me. Why? you may ask is not only is everything a dollar, yes, I said uno peso! this is almost as close to being free as it comes but the things on here are quality items the earrings, rings, and necklaces are beautiful and the don't, I mean do- not feel like it's price. The makeup are work able (They carry ELF Cosmetics Items here too!) but one thing about this site is that you have to be quick if you see a piece you want today most likely it would be sold out the next time you go on that site.  The most amazing product on this site is their KARA eyelashes c'mon let's be real where can you find human hair eyelashes that are a dollar? and don't let me forget those flash tattoos
website: www.shopmissa.com



Born Pretty Store: I mainly come on here for nail supply items such as rhinestones and stamping plate but the jewelry on here are beauty haven't brought any from here this is sure a place to check out especially if your into nail art.
website: www.bornprettystore.com

Hair

For those who don't know I do where wigs. I use to be a braid wearing going up. Wore track weaves a few times and now since I love the versatility of wearing wigs when I switched its hard for me to switch back. Many women these days buy there virgin hair and make there wigs. There's nothing wrong with that some of those wigs make my a little envious until I see the prices of those bundles though. More power to the woman that can spend close to $200.00 a bundle and have like 4 of them with a closure I'm sorry I can do a lot with $1,000 dollars then to just sew it on my head.
To some of ya'll that aren't close to a beauty supply store like myself or even if your looking for a price comparison this is for you guys.

Hair to Beauty: This site has been my holy grail since last year every unit I've receive have came super fast and there affordable. Yes they do carry weave, braiding hair, accessories and makeup as well just think of them as a online version on your favorite beauty supply store.
website: www.hairtobeauty.com

Elevate Styles: Now let me tell you about this company they are slowly stealing my heart away this happens to be my mother's holy grail for her units they are a couple of days faster is shipping they just seem to carry some units at a cheap price then hair to beauty problem is by the time I'm on a unit the color I want it gone and I'm not ready to go 100% black or dark brown I need color in my hair to bring out the undertones in my complexion. If your looking for a one stop for hair and accessories this is strictly just a hair site. They do carry weaves and braiding hair. Your orders are also protected by google which I find impressive.
website: www.elevatestyles.com

Closing Statement

These are just a few sites for you guys to check out and I would definitely keep you guys posted with out things that I buy from these site. Keep in mind that you should do comparisons at all times check for proof of the legitimacy of the site. Make sure the shipping doesn't make up half of your entire order for example: If your buying a item for let's say $40 dollars and standard shipping is $20.00 don't buy it that's bull crap shipping should cost that much if it is the same country and you know for a fact the item doesn't weight that much. Now sometimes when you spend $50 dollars or more on these site you automatically get free shipping so read the fine print. Chances are standard shipping is $8.00 anyway so why not get something else for it instead of spending it solely on shipping. Ebay and Amazon do carry cosmetics but be aware that most of the time its a vender saling  through these sites so take caution. There have been claims about fake high end makeup and scammers floating around these sites.  Come up a price that you don't really mind losing in case something goes wrong and start shopping for things in that price range. For me that $7.00, I'm just going to by honest by the time it get to $10.00 I'm looking like what else can I get with this besides makeup or accessories this could be a boom ass shirt or a pack of meat (which is becoming even more pricey by the day) then I start thinking about holiday gifts. I do consider anything over $10.00 a splurge simply because its on something I want instead of something I needed. The purpose of this blog is to let some of your divas out there that you don't have to spend a load of cash to look good. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a "Diva on a Budget"

Hope This Helps Someone!

Love you guys!

Petal Falling til Next Time! xoxox!!!!!

Jayson (Short Story Sunday)

 

It was just a simple morning laying in my queen sized Victorian styled bed. When I saw him, He was tall, dark, and mysterious. Moving swiftly from room to room everyone had told me about him. I always laughed it off as them being a little looney, and now I see him with my own two eyes and wondered if he saw me. Stepping my feet on the cold marbled tile floors. Following the sweet aroma of morning dew lingering behind him. Tipping Toe from room to room hoping to get a closer view and there he was in the kitchen peering at the rose garden through the large window.

“Haven’t anyone told you not to explore unknown things” His baritone voice cracked the silence causing me to jump back.

He was right my friends and I always made jokes about people doing this in horror movies and here I was do the same thing, but who could blame me for being curious. He was a piece of art that I have been longing to see. A piece of art that appeared to everyone except for me. I’ve heard stories about them my whole entire life. Stories that fascinated me to the romantic nature these creatures possessed. Over the years I’ve convinced myself that I was crazy to even have fantasies about them stealing me away at night because something that harbored so much passion couldn’t exist.

“Leave”!! He shouted not knowing that my stubborn nature wouldn’t listen although I was a few seconds away from pissing on myself.

My mother always told me that one day my love for adventure would change my life forever maybe she was right but it was too late. As I stepped closer and closer to him.

“I TOLD YOU TO LEAVE”! He turned around yelling my eyes widened and the sight of his lifeless greenish brown eyes that set like two big slants engraved into fine china on his beautiful bone structured face. Frozen, I stared at his long wavy black hair pulled back into a tight pony tail and full heart shaped lips. His tattoos on his cocoa complexion stood out because of the paleness of his undertone.

“Don’t look at me” He said more calmly turning around hiding his face. I don’t know why I put my hands on his cold shoulders. It was like I wasn’t even afraid of this mystical creature everyone called a monster.  How could this be happening, this cannot be real but can't I control the connection I started to feel. 

-To Be continued

 

Word from me: I'm trying something new, I'm not brand new to Watt Pad matter of fact I've had mines up for about a year or so. Many of you may have a general idea that when it comes to me and my stories that I just sometimes get so overwhelmed with life that I can't think straight. This causes major writer's block for me which later results to a whole lot of unfinished material. It isn't that I've totally forgot about them but the way my mind is set up. I seem to constantly get story lines and ideas that doesn't match an ,already started project and I end up starting another one. Back to the Watt Pad thing, I'm going to put my best effort into posting chapters on my Watt Pad Account a few days but posting them on here so if your absolutely dying to know what happens or even if I started a new project then go over there and check me out! https://www.wattpad.com/user/EmpressRose. Note: That I might need to get my stuff together but I'm really not one to give up. I also want to say Thank You! to everyone who actually read my blogs and my stories. Just knowing that others are interested and a few things I have to say makes my day.





Love You Guys!

Petals Falling Until Next Time! XoXo!

 

 

What to Cook Wednesdays (Side Dish Version)

Homemade Mash Potatoes

Ingredients

1 1/2 pounds of baking potatoes (peeled and diced)
2 table spoons of Salt
1/2 cup of Milk
Butter (margarine would do)
Black or Cayenne Pepper

Directions

In a medium saucepan cook potatoes in salted water (Use one tablespoon) (Add a couple of cloves of garlic if you want garlic mashed potatoes).  Cover for about 20 to 25 minutes or until tender. Drain your potatoes . Mash with a potato masher or a fork and spoon (This may require a little more elbow grease but it gets the job done) . Add butter, Season to taste with salt and pepper (Add cheese if you want to go for cheesy mashed potatoes) . Gradually beat in enough milk to make mixture light and fluffy and creamy (Remember it's easier to add milk a little by little adding to much milk can turn it into cream of potato soup). If desired, serve with butter and garnish with scallion if you want to add a kick of onion flavoring plus it a beautiful garnish.

Extra Tips

Mashed Potatoes are a forgiving recipe you can play around with the garnishes, the extra flavorings and even make it as a part of a casserole. You can never will go to wrong with mash potatoes trying different variations of mashed potatoes. Put you chef hat on and experiment after all that's how recipes are created.

Love you Guys!!!

Petals Falling Until Next Time! xoxoxo!

Sexual Education (Should it be taught in public schools)

 

 

 

Sexual Education in Public Schools

 

American children are more vulnerable to sexual transmitted diseases and early parenthood than generations before them. According to The Center of Disease Control and Kaiser Family Foundation  approximately 65% of STDS contracted in America will occur in people under 25 years of age and 1 out of 4 new cases of H.I.V infections occur in those under the age of 22 (Masland,2014). These statistics stress the importance of educating our youth about tools that effect their daily lives such as what is the meaning of consensual sex, what is sexual abuse, how to prevent unwanted pregnancies and sexual transmitted diseases. However, there is an on-going debate about this particular biology lesson and how it should be taught. Some questioned the importance of sexual education being taught in schools, liberals have their views that lessons taught should be in full details, and conservatives believe that such an intimate topic should be taught by parents in a moral manner.  Each party have valid reasons for their belief but which one seem to be more effective.

Sexual education is a crucial lesson that should be taught to our adolescents. Children today are more inquisitive about sex than their predecessors. Elementary students are realizing the difference between male and female anatomy and how it affect them sexually. Richard McCarthy have experienced this when a teacher reported catching a girl preforming oral sex on his five year old son in an unlocked bathroom at First Lutheran Church/Carson School in Los Angeles, California (CBS-Los Angeles,2013).  Middle school students are experimenting sexually for various reasons feeling pleasure, to improve their relationship, and for popularity or their reputation (Child Trends Data Bank, 2013). By the time most American teenagers reach high school over 50% of them are having sexual relationships. Our children, preteens, and teenagers are being influenced by their peers and the highly sexualized media such as erotic novels, music videos, sitcoms, reality television shows, X-rated movies and gossip magazines. According to Psychologist David Walsh, the brain is wired to develop intense physical and emotional attraction during teenage years more than during the maturing process. He also stated his disruption on how casual sex is portrayed in the media and he claims that this distort the views of true intimacy (Jayson, 2015). This maybe the reason why many parents stress the importance of having a responsible adult who can educate their children with everything they need to learn about sex. Although, sexually transmitted diseases and early pregnancies are the two most popular reason why sexual education is important. Consensual sex and learning how to approach a situation where sexual abuse or assault is taking place is also essential. Child molestation has been on the rise for the past few decades and so are the growing population of child molesters within the database. Learning about consensual sex can help lower the rates of sex crimes against children. They’re many reasons why sexual education is considered beneficial, but we still have opposing views which have spilt this debate into two parties the liberals and conservatives.

Liberals believe generally that sexual education is the only way to effectively improve how American youth approach sex responsibly. Like physical education sexual education should be mandatory in all public schools. We trust our educators to teach and prepare our children for a brighter future academically, professionally and socially, but how is this possible when we shy away from educating them on the pros and con of sexual topics. Liberals stress the importance of these lessons being taught with detailed information within their syllabus. They also believe that sexual education would prevent the negative outcome of engaging in sexual activities and effective teaching can develops negotiation skills, decision-making skills, assertion and listening skills (Walkins, 2014). Although they are not opposing abstinence, they do stress the importance of sex education being taught effectivelly and that learning abstinence isn’t enough to keep our curious youth from engaging in sexual acts and they need to know how to make decisions regarding their sexual tendencies wisely.

  Conservatives don’t agree with these views. They believe that lessons on such an intimate topic should be taught in a domestic environment by parents. That parents are the best educators of sex and they are responsible for teaching moral values to their children. These beliefs stem from religious views on purity and on the many claims of teachers who caters to their own personal belief by handing out inappropriate materials to their students. Materials that contain explicit contents geared around homosexuality, bestiality, BDSM, and sex crimes.  Like in two recent cases one in Pembroke, North Carolina where a substitute teacher allowed a class of ninth graders watch the sexually explicit film “Fifty Shades of Grey” based on the trilogy by E.L James (Willets,2015). Another happened in Gilford, New Hampshire were William Baer a father of a ninth grader at Gilford High School was arrested during a school board meeting for protesting the required reading of  “Nineteen Minutes” by Jodi Picoult, which contain events geared around student violence, bullying, and sexual aggression ( Bamforth,2014). These cases have made clear the concerns of many parents.  It provides evidence why many want to take such lessons into their own hands, but it is not enough to prove that teaching such lessons are the sole responsibility of parents. With some children living in an unstable household with one parent and others with two parents who aren’t stabled enough to teach their children such lessons. We cheat these children on how to make healthy choices regarding sex after sexual education is discontinued in schools. Children minds are like sponges and tend to soak up everything around them and like teachers, parents tend to teach based on their own personal views. Some avoid teaching their children because they are uncomfortable or in denial of the possibility that their child could be interested in such a topic. Others engage in negative sexual relationships in the presence of their children that may contradicts the positive lessons they try to instill in them. However, many parents and faith-based households stress only the importance of waiting until marriage and by doing so that child would have a beneficial, meaningful, and loving relationship with their significant other that isn’t based on carnal pleasures.

Abstinence is an important lesson and have been proven to be the safest form of safe sex practices but when abstinence becomes the only route in educating our youth it could become detrimental to their health. These teaching don’t prevent the wide-spread sexually transmitted diseases or teenage pregnancies and children who do succumb to their sexual urges often feel shameful and condemned.  Nicholas Ducote, a former homeschooled Christian have spoken out about his experience growing up in and abstinence taught household and stated that there were extreme views on purity and lust and to have sexual thoughts about someone is shameful lusting after that person. When taught about STDS he was told that you can’t get a disease from your wife as long as you’re in a Godly monogamous relationship and nobody cheats. If you are promiscuous, you will ruin this immunity and get cancer. (Kutner, 2015). Some children growing up with such views often stray away from sexual actions because of the fear of being punished because they have lusted or fornicated, but this fear don’t stop the urges in the majority. Nicholas talks of his struggles with masturbation and the guilt behind it believing that the devil was trying to tempt him. He also speaks of his friend, a fellow homeschooled student who had urges to prey on under aged girls and how there’s was no conception of levels when it came to sin (Kutner,2015). This proves that teaching a child about abstinence isn’t enough to ensure positive sexual decision making and growing up with such views could result to an unstable relationship with sex in the future.

Regardless of what side, this debate seems to be more effective.  We can all agree that sexual education is important and should be taught rather it’s inside or outside the home. Parents may want to protect the innocent minds of their children by controlling the levels of sexual content  being taught within sexual education curriculums, but in this advance generation our youth is becoming more knowledgeable a lot sooner and making their own decisions a lot sooner than expected. Rather you agree or disagree with the liberals/conservatives, or you are still stuck somewhere in between. As a nation it’s our responsibility to provide knowledgeable information to ensure that our youth make decisions safely and wisely and the way to give each and every child the opportunity to equally do so is to make sure sexual education classes are mandatory within all schools in America.

 

Citation Page

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·        Jayson, Sharon. "USATODAY.com - Teens Define Sex in New Ways." USATODAY.com - Teens Define Sex in New Ways. N.p., 19 Oct. 2005. Web. 12 June 2015.

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·        Willets, Sarah. "Students View Sexually-explicit Film Parents Angered; Sub Teacher Taken off Call List - Robesonian." Robesonian. N.p., 08 May 2015. Web. 13 June 2015.

·        Bamforth, Annebelle. "Exclusive: Father Arrested For Speaking Out Against Sexually Explicit Book As Required Reading (Graphic Content)." Ben Swanns Truth In Media. N.p., 6 May 2014. Web. 13 June 2015.

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Why haven't I been blogging? (The secret event I've been keeping for months)

For some people who may be wondering where have I been in the blogging world this one is for you guys.

Since March, 9, 2015 I have been blessed with the opportunity to continue my education. It have been something that I've been wanting to do for years and it seemed like for the longest time there were road blocks in the way of me accomplishing this particular goal. Every since I received my acceptance email (Modern Technology) and official documentation. I decided to take a break from almost everything within the first few terms so I can focus on warming myself back up as a student.

This time around I'm so excited about being a college student for the simple fact that the first two times I basically went to college to jump start my professional life. Therefore, I took quick courses I wasn't really interested in just to meet the requirements for the largest job market available at that time. Now I'm actually going for my psychology degree which have always been my dream major. Recently I've added sociology as a minor. How typical huh? I was going to do creative writing but I can accomplish so much more in life with sociology after all I'm all about helping people make their lives better.

Some of you guys are probably like "Why would you keep that a secret?" and to be completely honest about it. I've made that decision based off of the simple fact that for the past few years I've been through my number of struggles and a lot of people have said and done some hateful things and being that it seemed like I was a target for cruel assumptions and nasty rumors. I just didn't want to hear negativity from anyone about my future. Believe it or not people tend to be shocked when learning about my major and prior to enrolling in school some very lovely individuals kindly made smart remarks about how I should focus on something else because they couldn't see me doing such a thing in the future. So the only way I was able to keep a clear mind was to keep my academic life a secret for a little while.

I'm now going into my third term and it seems to be going by so fast. For those wondering am I an online student. Yes, I am the community college where I live have never been some where I wanted to attend. I did my research for the prefect school for me and I decided to apply to University of Phoenix , Liberty University, and University of Southern New Hampshire. University of Phoenix  contacted me first and the other contacted me a bit later but my heart stuck with SNHU simply because of how they make you feel like family. It was like being adopted into a family who makes sure everything is just right for you and your future goals in life.

The real purpose for this blog is to let some of you guys know that everything happens in Gods time. I applied to these same schools last year and the year before and something always seemed to prevent me from enrolling and yet this time everything went through perfectly. Don't give up keep trying it will happen.  Those who are  thinking about online college my advice for you is to do your research I love my school but you might not be looking for what I was looking for in a school. Just keep you head up and keep pushing forward.


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Petals Falling til Next Time xoxoxo!