Embrace Your Individuality

Embracing Your Individuality

I’ve been pondering over this topic for weeks. Wondering if this is something I really felt needed to be addressed. I came the conclusion that it is an important topic because I notice that a lot of people struggle with embracing their individuality.

I know it sounds crazy but society I have promoted certain standards for decades and even centuries and some people struggle to embracing their own personal likes and dislike because of these standards.

For Example: Who created the standard of what is black and what is white?

Just because the majority of the people that shares the same race as you love to listen to hip hop and r&b. Doesn’t make you less black because you love country and rock.

You have to stop trying to fit into a box of what is considered “normal”, because in all actuality what is considered normal today. Would be labeled abnormal or outdated tomorrow.

It is perfectly okay to admit the you love things that most people don’t understand.

For Example: I personally love darker hues of every color (Violet, Black Blue, Emerald and etc) and most likely you would catch me wearing most black and grays. I just happen to like these things but I’m in no way gothic or emo.

We are all made differently from one another. Yet, we define ourselves based on similarity.

For Example: “Oh we are both 25 years old and she still reads manga, how childish?”

Embrace, your difference and never be ashamed of admitting what you like as a person. These are the things that make us who we are and anyone who can’t accept that. Doesn’t accept you..

I really hoped this help someone…

Love You Guys! XOXOXOX

Petals Falling Until Next Time…

Jayson: Chapter Four: Aftermath of the Gate

Chapter Four: Aftermath of the Gate

 Azania trembled at the sight before her eyes. An old picture of a woman wrapped in the arms of a mysterious young man. The woman wore a dress that seem to mimic those of the late 1800’s and the fedora and suit that the young man wore is what really personified the era of which this picture was taken. 

The picture hung in the walk way of what seems to be an entrance to a house, or room of some sort hidden further back in the rose garden.

Azania froze when she saw what the others saw. The woman in the picture had her face, her stature, and her eyes were so life like it felt like she was staring into her own soul.

“Who is this” She ask the Blackwilt siblings hoping they knew the answer.

“This is our first time seeing the picture” Emerald said in total shock.

Sina looked at her with the look of disbelief on her face.

“Well let’s open the other door and maybe we can find some clues” Sina said making the only logical conclusion out of the group.

Maurice ran in front blocking them. “We should save that for another day I think we have all seen enough for one night”.

Sapphire and Abigail didn’t hesitate to turn around and head back to the house. Azania and Sina stared at one another in complete silence.

Back in the house Sina tried to lighten to mood by showing pictures of them when they were younger. She came across a picture of her and Uche when they first started dating and started to turn pale in the face.

Sapphire grabbed the picture out of her hand and she froze. Emerald grabbed the picture from her sister’s hand and started to tremble. Causing Maurice to follow suit upon glancing at what they saw.

Azania crossed her legs as she watched these people who were strangers a few hours ago behave as if they knew more about their life then they did.

“Do ya’ll know him” Azania asked as she she shifted positions on her vintage styled couch.

Penelope being the only one of her siblings who managed to keep her composure shrugged her shoulders. Abigail slammed the picture on the glass coffee table and walked torwards the window. Maurice stood up and started pacing.

“It’s obvious that ya’ll know some shit and your not telling us”. Sina said motioning towards the kitchen and pouring a nice little mixture of White Gin and Cranapple juice.

“You Fuckers are stressing me out” Sina continue when she returned to the living room. Azania had her arms crossed as she sported her infamous bitch face.

Sapphire stood up.

“Fuck this shit it’s only right that we tell them” She said looking at the rest of the Blackwilts.

“We can’t. remember they have to find these things out for themselves” Emerald said with the look of pitty written on her face.

“Have it every occurred to you that maybe this is the reason we met them today”? Sapphire continued to provide a reason to spill the tea.

“Sap is right” Maurice being the only Blackwilt male left agreed with his younger sister.

“I mean how else are they supposed to find out” Abigal said in agreement.

Sapphire put her hand on her hip.

“Okay we’ll tell them”. She said after letting out a big sigh.

The Blackwilt sibling all sat down and looked at each other waiting to see who would start. When Penelope held her chest and begin to speak.

“Have you seen him”? She asked and instantly Sina froze.

To Be Continued…….

Questions to think about before next week.

Why did the Uche’s picture change the mood for the Blackwilt siblings?

Quick Update

Hey, you guys I know it has been awhile but I feel like it’s time for a quick update. 2016 has been treating pretty while so far but I have been dealing with somethings on an emotional level. I’m guessing maybe I have set many goals for myself this year that I kind of forgot to incorporate God and his will for my life into the mix. It’s a little overwhelming.

Lately, I have been viewing things a little bit differently. I don’t know rather it’s just a level of becoming a spiritual person or age and maturity. It’s almost as if rose colored glasses have been removed from my eyes and I see things a little bit more clearly.

I’m still in school and as a matter of fact this term would mark the beginning of my second year which I am very proud of because as a little girl I always wanted to be a thriving college student. A dream that faded when I got in my teens and other things started to matter more to me then my dream career.

Will I Still Be Blogging? Definitely!

School have been my main priority over the past few months as I tackled one of the most difficult courses I have faced so far. I’m currently looking for fun, informative, and laid back material that actually matters to you guys. That doesn’t involved gossip (There’s a million and one outlets for that category).

Many of you may know that I’m a private person to a certain degree and I’m not going to disclose too much. However, I felt like you guys deserved an update of some sort. Many of you guys simply just need to know I’m not giving up on something I want like having a voice and a platform that is mines to share my views, my likes, and creativity.

Love You Guys!!! XOXOXO!

Petals Falling Til Next Time!

Are You Moving To Fast? (Relationship Advice)

Most of us who have been in relationship with that special someone have always came to a point where they have wondered if they were moving too fast. In the beginning of our relationships one thing that both individuals can agree upon is that they are fond of each other but sometimes that fondness could be wrongfully read as something a little bit deeper than it should be.

The touching and the smooches and the “three word phrase” that have the ability to make or break a relationship is the point we all want to get to. However, they’re factors to consider when the relationship is still young.  Especially, for someone who haven’t been in the dating scene for a long time.

As human beings we have to understand that we all have the same goals and finding that someone that is truly ours until we take our last breath happens to be one of them. We are genetically made up to crave love and affection. After being single of a long period of time when getting emotionally involved with someone again we tend to act on the things that we were missing a lot quicker then we should. It’s like going on diet for months and when we decide to treat ourselves to something sweet, then end up eating a whole container of ice cream. When our bodies are deprived we tend to go over board when we reintroduce those things back into our lives.

We have to read our relationships. By asking ourselves a few questions. Questions such as is this love I’m feeling or lust? These are two different feelings associated with budding unions between two individuals. Lust is something that is more physical and love is more emotional. When you figure out your answer to this question. Then you should ask yourself the question of how much do you know about the person your with? People tend to naturally show others what they feel would make them look good in that person eyes. Hiding the ugly aspects of their lives until that person is emotionally invested in them. For Example: Most of the brave women who have endured abuse and spoke out about it tends to start their stories along the lines of a statement that sounds like: “He was so sweet at first then something changed”. Give your self time to read the person you’re with. Give yourself 90 days to gather information (Pay attention to those red flags, behavioral flaws and etc). After those 90 days (three months) you should have a general idea of who you’re dealing with but don’t stop reading the person your with. Also pay attention to how that person interact with others besides you. Based on that you would develop a sense of how that person is in different situations. For example: If a guy is trash talking his ex or the mother of his child to you. Then there’s a chance he would do the same thing to you if things don’t work out.

These are a few ways to discover whether you should take your relationship to another level. Just be smart about it because most of us are crossing that bridge of being too old to not only be playing games but wasting time that could be spent bettering yourself for “the right person”.

I hope this helped someone!!

Love You, Guy! Xoxoxo

Petals Falling Until Next Time!

Become a better you in between relationships!

Many people tend to dread being single. Especially, in these colder months (wink, wink) but sometimes we have to understand that because we are single doesn't mean that we are undesirable or unattractive. We do not have to be defined by being in a relationship with another person. I know so many women that are satisfied with having a piece of a man instead of not having one at all. They would endure the cheating, lying, abuse, and etc all because they don't want to be single. 

People have to understand that in between relationships is for healing and reinventing yourself. I personally could never understand how a person can go from relationship to relationship. If you truly care about someone there isn't anyway in the world that the next day you can be with someone else if your able to do that then you never felt as deep about that person as you thought (that another topic for another blog  )

In between relationships is the time for you to reflect, Discover what you really want in a partner , Evaluate yourself and etc. When you do these thing not only would the process of letting go become easier but you would grow as a person.

For Example: I've been single for sometime now. After my last so called relationship. I went through a lot internally it took awhile but now I'm at a point in my life were I know what I want and anything the seems like the total opposite gets dropped quickly. I'm a woman that deserves the best of the best someone that is truly given to me from God. So the moment a guy comes off sideways I side swipe and keep it moving. I personally have a lot to offer to a relationship and if a guy can't see that then he ain't for me. This is something I would have never discovered if I had became a serial dater after that relationship.

What I'm saying is become a better you. If you feel like you want to become physically, emotionally, and mentally healthier between relationships then do that. Maybe during your self evaluation period you discovered somethings within your self that you aren't please with that may have contribute to the fall of your pervious relationship it's ok work on it. Whatever. you decide to do never enter into a relationship completely fragile. Man aren't looking for broken hearted miserable paranoid females but women they can build a empire with and you can build a stable empire with a unstable empress  and vice versa.

Hope this helped someone!

Love You Guys!

Petals Falling Until Next Time!

Sociology Highlights: Most Memoriable Lesson

This was the assignment I had to do during my second week in sociology. We had to watch Genie:  Secret of the Wild Child" https://youtu.be/hmdycJQi4QA and in a few sentences answer questions based on the YouTube video. One of the many questions stood out to me and that we the one regarding rather we though she was treated as a patient or a research subject. The reason why I'm sharing this assignment with you guys is because it shows us how much of human identity is contribute through the society in which they are apart from and the differences in a person who was and wasn't a victim of social isolation. This lesson was informative in many different ways and emotional and others. It just go to show you that people really don't chose how they turn out and what we think makes us individual human being with our own sense of self can still be linked to the one thing we all try to rebel against society.



Tatiana Omari

Sociology  122

Professor John Wilkins

9/27/2015

The Wild Child known as Genie

Genie was found after years of extreme isolation at the age of thirteen she was unable to perform many task expected of someone in her age group. She wasn’t able to talk, had a bunny walk, and possessed other animalistic characteristics such as (sniffing, spitting, and clawing). Shortly after her discovery she became a patient at the Children Hospital in Los Angles, California. During this time I believe she was looked at as a patient because she was known to win the hearts of many. The doctors and scientists that worked with her genuinely wanted to provide her with everything she needed in order to one day be considered the social norm of any human being. During a few years of treatment she began to develop certain human tendencies such has emotions, physical sensations, and speech. She also began to understand social structure through the social interactions with others. 

They’re many factor that make one think that Genie became more of a research subject then a patient after awhile. One being the study of “”. Dr. Jean Marc Gaspard Itard took on Victor’s case with intentions to gain admiration for being the first to socialize a wild child. When failing to do so Dr. Itard abandoned Victor. As stated in the video “Victor was an opportunity to see a human being stripped of society and culture”. I think after watching the movie “The Wild Child” which was a portrayal of Dr. Itard’s work Victor. Some individuals began to look at Genie’s case in the same manor. They wanted to socialize her for other reasons besides bettering her life. Another reason I think she became a research subject is her sleep study test results. Discovering that she had an abnormal brain pattern sparked the debate on rather she became mentally retarded during her years of isolation or had she been born that way. Which made her seem to have been more of a subject of fascination to research about more so then a patient who needs recovery from years of extreme abuse and isolation. Especially, after the funds for her treatment ran out and she was simply placed back into a system where she would endure even more abuse in the hand of her numerous foster parents.

Overall, Genie’s story is a very sad but educational one. Being that one who look into it from a sociological point of view would understand that socialization pay a huge part in how we developed into who we all are today.

Blog Updates!

Okay for the few of my roses that read my blog regularly. I am happy to announce that I have reached my goal of 1,000 views for this year.

I would continue to create content and lately I have been thinking bout making a move to a better platform something that would be so much more enjoyable to look at and read.

I'm thinking about creating a website for my blog and if I decide to go along with that idea it would be up by March of next year.

I'm honestly trying my hardest to update content on this blog but sometimes the only typing I'm trying to do is regarding homework, school projects, and etc...

Would you like to see my blog as a website?
Should I become a little more established?
Do you think everything is fine the way it is?

Your feedback is welcomed!