Are You Moving To Fast? (Relationship Advice)

Most of us who have been in relationship with that special someone have always came to a point where they have wondered if they were moving too fast. In the beginning of our relationships one thing that both individuals can agree upon is that they are fond of each other but sometimes that fondness could be wrongfully read as something a little bit deeper than it should be.

The touching and the smooches and the “three word phrase” that have the ability to make or break a relationship is the point we all want to get to. However, they’re factors to consider when the relationship is still young.  Especially, for someone who haven’t been in the dating scene for a long time.

As human beings we have to understand that we all have the same goals and finding that someone that is truly ours until we take our last breath happens to be one of them. We are genetically made up to crave love and affection. After being single of a long period of time when getting emotionally involved with someone again we tend to act on the things that we were missing a lot quicker then we should. It’s like going on diet for months and when we decide to treat ourselves to something sweet, then end up eating a whole container of ice cream. When our bodies are deprived we tend to go over board when we reintroduce those things back into our lives.

We have to read our relationships. By asking ourselves a few questions. Questions such as is this love I’m feeling or lust? These are two different feelings associated with budding unions between two individuals. Lust is something that is more physical and love is more emotional. When you figure out your answer to this question. Then you should ask yourself the question of how much do you know about the person your with? People tend to naturally show others what they feel would make them look good in that person eyes. Hiding the ugly aspects of their lives until that person is emotionally invested in them. For Example: Most of the brave women who have endured abuse and spoke out about it tends to start their stories along the lines of a statement that sounds like: “He was so sweet at first then something changed”. Give your self time to read the person you’re with. Give yourself 90 days to gather information (Pay attention to those red flags, behavioral flaws and etc). After those 90 days (three months) you should have a general idea of who you’re dealing with but don’t stop reading the person your with. Also pay attention to how that person interact with others besides you. Based on that you would develop a sense of how that person is in different situations. For example: If a guy is trash talking his ex or the mother of his child to you. Then there’s a chance he would do the same thing to you if things don’t work out.

These are a few ways to discover whether you should take your relationship to another level. Just be smart about it because most of us are crossing that bridge of being too old to not only be playing games but wasting time that could be spent bettering yourself for “the right person”.

I hope this helped someone!!

Love You, Guy! Xoxoxo

Petals Falling Until Next Time!

Become a better you in between relationships!

Many people tend to dread being single. Especially, in these colder months (wink, wink) but sometimes we have to understand that because we are single doesn't mean that we are undesirable or unattractive. We do not have to be defined by being in a relationship with another person. I know so many women that are satisfied with having a piece of a man instead of not having one at all. They would endure the cheating, lying, abuse, and etc all because they don't want to be single. 

People have to understand that in between relationships is for healing and reinventing yourself. I personally could never understand how a person can go from relationship to relationship. If you truly care about someone there isn't anyway in the world that the next day you can be with someone else if your able to do that then you never felt as deep about that person as you thought (that another topic for another blog  )

In between relationships is the time for you to reflect, Discover what you really want in a partner , Evaluate yourself and etc. When you do these thing not only would the process of letting go become easier but you would grow as a person.

For Example: I've been single for sometime now. After my last so called relationship. I went through a lot internally it took awhile but now I'm at a point in my life were I know what I want and anything the seems like the total opposite gets dropped quickly. I'm a woman that deserves the best of the best someone that is truly given to me from God. So the moment a guy comes off sideways I side swipe and keep it moving. I personally have a lot to offer to a relationship and if a guy can't see that then he ain't for me. This is something I would have never discovered if I had became a serial dater after that relationship.

What I'm saying is become a better you. If you feel like you want to become physically, emotionally, and mentally healthier between relationships then do that. Maybe during your self evaluation period you discovered somethings within your self that you aren't please with that may have contribute to the fall of your pervious relationship it's ok work on it. Whatever. you decide to do never enter into a relationship completely fragile. Man aren't looking for broken hearted miserable paranoid females but women they can build a empire with and you can build a stable empire with a unstable empress  and vice versa.

Hope this helped someone!

Love You Guys!

Petals Falling Until Next Time!

Sociology Highlights: Most Memoriable Lesson

This was the assignment I had to do during my second week in sociology. We had to watch Genie:  Secret of the Wild Child" https://youtu.be/hmdycJQi4QA and in a few sentences answer questions based on the YouTube video. One of the many questions stood out to me and that we the one regarding rather we though she was treated as a patient or a research subject. The reason why I'm sharing this assignment with you guys is because it shows us how much of human identity is contribute through the society in which they are apart from and the differences in a person who was and wasn't a victim of social isolation. This lesson was informative in many different ways and emotional and others. It just go to show you that people really don't chose how they turn out and what we think makes us individual human being with our own sense of self can still be linked to the one thing we all try to rebel against society.



Tatiana Omari

Sociology  122

Professor John Wilkins

9/27/2015

The Wild Child known as Genie

Genie was found after years of extreme isolation at the age of thirteen she was unable to perform many task expected of someone in her age group. She wasn’t able to talk, had a bunny walk, and possessed other animalistic characteristics such as (sniffing, spitting, and clawing). Shortly after her discovery she became a patient at the Children Hospital in Los Angles, California. During this time I believe she was looked at as a patient because she was known to win the hearts of many. The doctors and scientists that worked with her genuinely wanted to provide her with everything she needed in order to one day be considered the social norm of any human being. During a few years of treatment she began to develop certain human tendencies such has emotions, physical sensations, and speech. She also began to understand social structure through the social interactions with others. 

They’re many factor that make one think that Genie became more of a research subject then a patient after awhile. One being the study of “”. Dr. Jean Marc Gaspard Itard took on Victor’s case with intentions to gain admiration for being the first to socialize a wild child. When failing to do so Dr. Itard abandoned Victor. As stated in the video “Victor was an opportunity to see a human being stripped of society and culture”. I think after watching the movie “The Wild Child” which was a portrayal of Dr. Itard’s work Victor. Some individuals began to look at Genie’s case in the same manor. They wanted to socialize her for other reasons besides bettering her life. Another reason I think she became a research subject is her sleep study test results. Discovering that she had an abnormal brain pattern sparked the debate on rather she became mentally retarded during her years of isolation or had she been born that way. Which made her seem to have been more of a subject of fascination to research about more so then a patient who needs recovery from years of extreme abuse and isolation. Especially, after the funds for her treatment ran out and she was simply placed back into a system where she would endure even more abuse in the hand of her numerous foster parents.

Overall, Genie’s story is a very sad but educational one. Being that one who look into it from a sociological point of view would understand that socialization pay a huge part in how we developed into who we all are today.

Blog Updates!

Okay for the few of my roses that read my blog regularly. I am happy to announce that I have reached my goal of 1,000 views for this year.

I would continue to create content and lately I have been thinking bout making a move to a better platform something that would be so much more enjoyable to look at and read.

I'm thinking about creating a website for my blog and if I decide to go along with that idea it would be up by March of next year.

I'm honestly trying my hardest to update content on this blog but sometimes the only typing I'm trying to do is regarding homework, school projects, and etc...

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