Many of us get into a runt of trying to make other people
proud. It’s normal we have a lot of people wanting to see us succeed in life.
This is sometimes the reason why we set our standards so high when it comes to
our lives. We often times feel like we aren’t doing enough because someone else
always seems to be doing better than we are and in world where success is
limited to material things not having stability can make us feel like failures
in life. We tend to forget that everyone has their time, never to lose faith,
and keep on pushing when those around you seem to push you down. If you feel
like your moment is just taking to long to get here, hopefully this would help
you keep it together when you don’t see that light at the end of the tunnel.
Everyone has their own time. You have to realize that life
is unpredictable and just because it’s raining in the morning doesn’t mean that
it’s going to be raining all day long. We all have good times but how do we know
what good if we never go through the bad? There’s a balance of them both and
without those struggles can you imagine how you would end up? I know it sounds
crazy but my struggles in life have taught me to be humble. I was never a mean
person but let’s just say I took a lot of things for granted until I was placed
in a situation where I had to do without them. Not only did I learn to
improvise but the value of those things really projected as I started to miss
them being right there. So instead of being negative in your situation or
beating yourself up being Cindy down the street that’s the same age as you seem
to be more accomplished. Take the time that you’re in your struggle to evaluate
your life. What do you need to learn from your situation, Who should you let
into your circle during this situation, and What survival skills should you
pick up while improvising? The most important thing is to study yourself
throughout our lives we tend to pay so much attention to everyone around us.
Our friends, family, co-workers, classmates, and the list goes on we focus so
much on others when being left by ourselves we often find out that we are a
familiar strangers.
Never lose faith no matter what happens. We all know the
feeling of applying for jobs and it seems like your phones isn’t ringing as
frequently or quickly as you hoped it would. It’s discouraging especially when
it seems like all your peers are employed and your still pounding the pavement
without success. Don’t give up on your goals whatever your goals maybe. It
might not be a job it can be starting an online business, meeting the woman/man
of your dreams, attending church more often, losing those 50 pounds that seem
to always be at the top of your resolutions at the beginning of every New Year.
You have to stay positive and carry on because trust me there’s going to
already be enough negativity in your life.
Which brings me to the next topic. Those people around you
that call themselves having your “best interest” at heart. People can be so
negative at times. During my struggles adapting to a new environment I naturally
wanted to work and save up so I can return back home and soon discovered that
without transportation in a rural environment you’re screwed. I didn’t have a
car and couldn’t afford to pay someone $15 dollars a day for gas money not
talking about them expected extra stuff on the side just for taking me
somewhere. I was stuck in a situation where I really couldn’t do anything. Instead
of people offering to take to look for a job or enroll in school they rather
walk around talking about “You need to get your s*** together”, “What’s wrong
with you, why can’t you get a job?, “You just don’t want to do s***” and my
favorite “You need to get a crazy check”. I’m not going to even lie it got to
me and mentally tore me down and broke me into piece. I was angry for a long
time with everything I almost lost it. That’s why I’m telling you to shake
those darts off. The people around you can literally cause more damage to you
when you aren’t what they consider successful. Think I’m lying? I bet you had
more friends when everything was good and only have a few if any now that things
are a little harder. You have to sometimes dislocate yourself from negativity
and it’s everywhere.
The question I often have when it comes to expectations on
young adults is who told us that if we don’t have our own car, house, and bank
accounts filled with loads of money by 25 that we are failures. Who set those
standards for us? Many people feel like if they don’t accomplish these things
by a certain age they’re worth less. Some have committed suicide and others
have turned to illegal hustles trying to keep up with the Jone’s. When all you have
to do is keep the faith, be humble, shake off negativity, and keep trying the
same way it’s happening for someone else it would happen for you too.
Love You Guy! XoXo!
Petals Falling Until Next Time!
