Is it Them? or Is it You?

You might have just finished a conversation with someone you use to  love talking to and instead of feeling happy and upbeat, You feel drained. Like the whole conversation  seemed like a bunch of point less discussions about irrelevant topics. Which end up in a debate about the actual importance of what was discussed.
Have you been out lately with someone you use to have fun with all the time, but it seemed like this time wasn't fun at all. Then you start to realize the only difference between those past outings and past conversations are the time frame.
Normally when things like this happen it's not so much of the other person who have changed. Maybe you have gone through a period of hardship, became a parent or simply grew up. I call these growth periods. Growth periods can be  mental, emotional, or spiritual. Which tends to change the way you look at life around you.

Mental Growth Periods: Causes you to change your perspective on things. You at some point in your life thought that new  "Bratz Dolls" was everything but now The only reason you would look at one is because you're thinking about buying it for a little girl in your life. It's the same thing that goes for the conversations you have. When you were younger you probably could spent hours and hours talking about how cute your celebrity crushes are with your best friend, how your going to dress up as 'Sailor Moon" for Halloween, What Jimmy did on Degrassi  or even how you want to try the experiment you just watched on "Zoom" (I'm sure by now you know what era I grew up in). Now such topics are mind less conversation. Just like mind less conversations the same goes for Mindless Outings. For most teenagers the places to be is the movie theater, the mall (with no money) or your friends house having a slumber party. It's not that this things have changed or became bad, Just that you think differently about them. Degrassi is still a good show but it's more of a pass time now, instead of something you  lived for. The mall is still a wonderful place to go to  for  shopping but to just hang out there and window shop "Ahhh No".

Emotional Growth Period: The difference between this and Mental Growth Period is the way you react to things.
If you grow emotionally the things that once made you happy , sad, and angry. Doesn't trigger those emotions anymore. Does this explain the numb way you feel about things? Maybe so.
For example as a child, Dropping Ice Cream, the word "NO", or your best friend not coming to school. Were things that made us sad now we could careless about all three although sometimes (the word "NO") can still trigger sadness but not the way it did in the as a child. So your probably trilled to know that your not becoming some "evil emotionless being" your just becoming more mature about life.

Spiritual Growth Period: This growth is like a package deal of all the growth put in one. Once you start a spiritual journey within your self. It would change you mentally and emotionally. Things that were once looked at as fun are now looked at has troublesome. Things that you use to say, you now realize you should say them. The way you look at life would change completely. Everything around you would no longer seems as important has they use to. As a effect you would become more peaceful and if your life was filled with drama you would learn to stay away from things that cause discomfort in your spirit.


So It's you!   I know I mainly spoke about how you look at things differently during and after a growth period in your life. The same thing goes for the people around you. People tend to associate with others that are of either the same mindset, up bring, lifestyle and etc. Something is similar about any group of friends even if the differences stand out boldly. Say you and you group of friends are friends because y'all think alike but you start thinking differently. Your friends either become boring, immature, or crazy to you. In there eyes you start acting like your better than they are and You don't want to be around them. Which isn't the case on your behalf you're u still confused of the changes in the way you react to things. This is how a lot of relationships goes to dust.  Positive change is always good and sometimes during or after growth period you realize that some of the company you keep shouldn't be around you. Growth should only effect your relationships positively and if those around can't seem to understand you've made some positive changes in in your life then you just might have to hold them at arms length.


Petals Falling Until Next Time!

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