Anger: Can ruin your life!

For the past few days I have been angry as hell about past events. Doing my anger burst I have realized how anger could ruin the life of many people. Anger at some point gives birth to vengeance.
You develop an urge to get that person who have hurt you back for what they have done to you. I won't go into details about what ticked off my anger burst but I will say that you should not let the events of the past, make you get out of your character now.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't get upset, a lot of us are human and we can't control our emotions but there's a difference between feeling and doing.
For everytime you smile at a enemy that's a point for you on your good chart. For everytime you show those who showed you evil kindness thats a stitch on your wounds. Learn how to forgive,  and when I say forgive I'm not saying  be a fool and fall for the tricks of the evil again. I'm saying free yourself from the heavy grude you are carrying by say it ok I forgive and I love you. You have no idea of what kind of chains you may have broken on your self if you just forgive.
Forgiveness is not easy its sometimes the hardest thing to feel pain and anger and still the person who cause it that you love them, but just do it.
Anger will ruin your life! It really would ruin your life! You would eventually become a slave to your anger. You would wake up angry,  go to sleep angry,  and plot on getting revenage. You are not hurting that person by being angry and holding grudges. Your just picking at your scab until it bleeds.
The mind is the devils playground he has away of putting things in your head that aren't even true.
He also have away of  turning  your anger into hatred then turning your hatred into vendetta and the next thing you know you have done something that you regret.

Let go and let God!

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The Race Card!

In the past week or so, there has been a rave about the Donald Sterling racist comments.

Many people that know me probably wonders why I haven't spoken on this topic just yet it as simple as racism is not a brand new issue.

So instead of addressing racism on its own the question really is "What is the African American community doing in this matter?".

It seems that our people are just satisfied with him being banned and fined for his racial slurs.

This man like many others still have a slave master mind set. He and I quote stated " I gave them jobs, food, and houses" not once did he talk about the talent of his African American players nor the fact that with out them his team would simply be a bad investment.

Donald Sterling is just a brand new face and name of how some people still think about our race. How free are we?

A few months ago I read an article about Yolanda Spivey and how she applied to job after job with no avail and as soon has she changed her name into a European name and applied to those same jobs how she got calls from each of those jobs.

It's an eye opener the only thing she change on her resume was her name.

Racism still exist it might not be as 

acceptable as it use to be but wait how acceptable is it? 

I find this disturbing how when a Caucasian make comment about our race a large group of people play the it ok to have your own opinion card. Don't get me wrong it is ok to have your own opinion but when your opinion effects a group of people it's not ok! The judicial system is racial too. They scream justice for all but at the same time African Americans are judged more harshly then our white counterparts for the same crimes. its not just whites that are racial.

We should stop racial profiling in our own communities. Yes I'm talking about African American being racial towards each other. We talk about our own race in such ways that let other races see that it's ok to do the same. We to judge " she ugly cause she black" "why she so dark" and etc. what is that telling others when most of our race prefer lighter skin over darker skin?

Sara Barrtman was an South African woman. Who was brought to France decades ago. The white man she worked for promised her fame and riches. His idea was to use her enlarged body parts (breast,butt, and vuvla) as a show for money. She was touched by many amaze white men and women. She became a sceincetific study because it was abnormal to have such large body parts. When the Hottentotten Venus show ended she turned to positution as a way to survive and keep up her drinking habits. She died at 25 years of age from a infection.They couldn't even  respect her in her death they made a mold then mutilated her body preserved her parts in jars in order to still study her.Her story is sad not just because of her life but because of how she was degraded because her body looks like many African American Women's body and how black women of  today  willingly  do what she was forced to do and have the audacity to call it beauty. 

The fact that our men consider an enlarged butt more beautiful then a pretty face and good moral values.

Instead of getting upset about racial issues. You should take a stand. See what the NAACP, have posted and let your voice be heard, or you could simply just write a blog such as I did. It starts with us no race can respect a race that doesn't even respect themselves.

In my opinion there shouldn't be any race issues. God created us all. We are all brothers and sisters. There's isn't going to be a "Whites Only Heaven".

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Who are You? A quick way to figure out who you really are and who you want to be!

A few days ago. My mother asked me, Who do you want to be? Of course in a sarcastic tone I replied " I wanna be Tatiana"That question buried itself in my head and for the first time. I asked myself  who am I? 

I then started thinking about a few great people. Then I came to the conclusion, Martin Luther King Jr wasnt known as just Martin  Luther King Jr, Oprah Winferey isn't known as just Oprah Winferey,  and Tyler Perry isn't just know as Tyler Perry. I'm sure you catch my drift. Each one of them are not know for there name alone, but for the amazing  things they have done. If there work was the same and their names where different they still would be known for there amazing  work.

So after dissecting the question " who do you want to be" into "who do I want to be known as". Many things popped into my head, and It had nothing to do with just being Tatiana Shakeela Mclellan Omari. 

Before when I asked myself this question the answers where like " a writer, a mom, a wife and etc."

Not realizing that all these thing are easy to accomplish without being specific. Anyone could be a mom but all mothers aren't great, for example.

After realizing that I realize that I want to be known as someone who is a reflecting of God's  Love, A wonderful Wife and Mother, A Writer who can use my talents to heal many broken heart, entertain, and educate, A woman who does what she can to make someone else life easier,A person others can look up to, A person who create the things that poor urban communities need, and most of all I want to be me. 

Wait before you say " isn't  thats what you were preventing from saying" Yes, I was when it had no meaning, I now know that I want to be me in the sense of never forgetting my roots, remembering to be humble, stay loyal, and never forgetting to laugh.

With all of these things being said "Who do you want to be? Comment Below!